- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I am in a difficult situation right now and need some advice 🙂 My fiance and I just moved into an apartment together. It is absolutely fantastic. We live in NorCal, east of San Francisco. He has a job with the local government district in San Francisco and commutes via BART to work. No issues there. I on the other hand have recently been approached by a former employer. Background: I lived in SoCal and dated my fiance long distance for 2 1/2 years. My former employer was unable to relocate me close to him, so I switched companies. I went from working with a team, to working by myself in a tiny office.
Now the details. My current employer’s office is 30 minutes from where I live and the job is good. BUT there is a piddly bonus, no salary increase, no 401k match and no growth. My former employer is offering me a fantastic once in a life-time opportunity that would last 3-4 years with a 23% overall increase in compensation, annual salary increases and 401k matching…..but my commute would double. My current commute is 30 min. to work and 45 min. back. With the new job, I would drive 45 minutes in the morning work- no sweat, but evenings and Fridays i have heard are 60-120 minutes. Right now I have a heavy debt load and little savings. I really want this new situation to work out, but I can’t wrap my head around the commute. This is the longst commute I have ever had.
I keep rationalizing this by telling myself I will save more money for my emergency fund and pay off my student loans (in year 4 of 10 of repayment ) from graduate school etc. Also, it will increase my worth in the market for the next position, which I could possibly get closer to home or in San Francisco so I can commute with my fiance on the train. My former employer may even be able to shift me to a position in San Francisco.
I manage stress by working out in the morning at 5am, so I am not worried about my sanity and activity level. I figured i could use the commute time by catching up on world news, books on CD etc. My fiance said after one year (when our lease is up) we could reevaluate where we live ( I really would not want to move at this point) and move closer so that our commutes are more reasonable. We do not have kids yet and plan on it in 2 years or so. Luckily our mothers are close by and can help us out…if we stay put in our new apartment- which is totally amazing.
So…..Time or Money.