Post # 1
As I’ve mentioned before, I am including white and purple iris into my wedding because one of my grandmas grew the most BEAUTIFUL bearded white iris (though these sadly can’t be used in bouquets). However, a week ago I recieved a call from my uncle saying that my other grandma had taken a turn for the worse and is in the hospital (she was suppose to come down for Christmas and come to my dress fitting next weekend). If she recovers there will be no possible way for her to EVER make the trip down here (meaning there is 0% she can attend my wedding). I do plan on going up to visit her in March, but I really wanted a way to honor her in my wedding like I am doing for my other grandma.
So I asked my uncle if she had a favorite flower, and he didn’t even have to think. He said her favorite flower was a simple carnation. It was the first flower she ever received from a man, and the only flower she ever wanted him to give her (this man, being my grandpa of course!). After he mentioned it, I remembered my grandpa telling me this story. So…. I scratched my white roses and iris centerpiece idea and decided to do carnations and iris!
So… I called my florist up (they are open on Saturdays but closed Sundays and Mondays) and asked her if she could do my original design but in white carnations instead of roses. She told me to hang on and put me on speaker phone then asked me to repeat my question. I did and the other girl at the shop said “What? Carnations as the main flower in her centerpieces? When she can afford roses? IS SHE CRAZY?!?” After I explained my WHY they changed their tune, but said that carnations can look a bit cheap and maybe to just use a few carnations but keep the main flower being rose. I told her I would think about it… but really, I want it to be a statement when you look at the centerpieces. Or rather, I want it to be a statement when I look at the centerpieces, and I just don’t feel that having carnations just stuck in there would have that impact.
Personally I don’t think carnations look cheap and I think they have a very pretty pattern… but who knows…
On a less emotional side, if I were to use carnations instead of roses I would save $800 on flowers!
Post # 3
Did you already put a deposit down with this florist? Because her putting you on speakerphone like she and the other girl were about to hear something hilarious would make me switch to another florist. That was rude of her.
Post # 4
Carnations are great, even though most folks prefer roses. My own mother HATES roses, and LOVES carnations. I think they could be beautiful in centerpieces.
Post # 5
@wbg21: I bet they’re tryiing to change your mind so they can keep their profit margin high. Stick with what you want, or tell them you’ll be going to another florist.
Post # 6
@wbg21: NO BRAINER HERE. The folks at the flower shop should keep their opinions and their Fat Yaps shut!!! I think it’s a beautiful and sentimental offering to have those flowers displayed at your wedding. Repeat, YOUR WEDDING!!! I guarantee, not one guest would think twice about it, or dare think you’re being cheap!
Post # 7
I adore carnations. I actually prefer them to roses. They smell good, look amazing, and “age” well.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
A lot of florists look down on carnations, and I kind of agree with them in general, but you have a sentimental reason, so stick to your guns. I don’t think they were trying to offend or anything, but were probably just honestly shocked that someone would want to feature carnations so prominently. If these are quality florists, they are not used to that.
Post # 9
Carnations can look amazing when done right (in my opinion, in large bunches and primarily with just one color).
I’d be hesitant to work with a florist who vocally did not like my vision. I feel like they’d put less work into it because of their preconceived notions about how it could look.
Post # 10
@strawbabies: Unfortunately yes, I already did put a non-refundable deposit down. It was only to gaurentee service, though. Since I paid the money already I decided to let this lack of tact roll off my back. Honestly, I told myself I have more important things to worry about than some rude florist. I’d like to think she thought her gesture was in good fun, and meant no harm.
@jenilynevette: The more I am looking at carnation based centerpieces, the more I am thinking they have have unique feel to them. They certainly do have their own beauty about them.
@StuporDuck: You sound exactly like my FI! He thinks the same thing. He actually suggested I only have the florist do the boutineers, corsages, and bouquets, then order the carnations through Sam’s Club/CostCo and DIY them… but yeah, I’m not much of a DIY queen! I am starting to think the only reason why they said that is because they know I have it in my budget to afford the roses. FI said if I called them up saying that things came up and I would no longer be able to afford roses, and I had a carnation budget they would be singing to the tune of “how lovely carnations are!”
Post # 11
Carnations are my favorite flower and will probably be the main flower in my wedding. They aren’t tacky IMO, so tell the florist where to go and use them.
Post # 12
Screw them!!! Honestly, I would at least consider changing florists for that comment. I love carnations. And it is such an amazing way to honor your grandmothers. I definately definately definately think you should stick with carnations and orchids and if the florists can’t get on board, then there are other florists. And if it saves you money, all the better!I would definately let them know that you did not appreciate their comments and that they were unprofessional. Whether their trying to make more profit or just being rude, it was completely uncalled for!
Post # 13
@mrsSonthebeach: Yeah, you’re probably right. These florist are a very high quality shop, and came highly recommended. Plus, I’ve been to a wedding where they did the flowers and it was stunning. I can certainly see how someone would be shocked to hear someone willingly WANT to use carnations over roses. Why though, do florist look down on carnations? Is it just because they are a less expensive flower?
Post # 14
Heck, when I get married, I am using dollar store fake flowers! Carnations are gorgeous, it’s my mom’s favourite flower so occasionally for Mother’s Day I get her a bouquet of them mixed with iris, and it’s honestly stunning. And so much cheaper. Don’t get me wrong, I adore roses, but I find they die so much faster then any other flower. And saving $800?! Definitely go for it, I LOVE that you want to honour your grandmother that way.
Post # 15
I like carnations. They’re fluffy and fresh looking. If the only downside to them is that people know they cost less, well that’s kind of lame. I didn’t realize the point of centerpieces is to make sure everyone knows they cost a lot? Anyway I would think a talented florist could make any type of flower look nice and elegant.
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@wbg21: I don’t think it’s the cost because plenty of other flowers are cheap, like hydrangea, and florist don’t look down on them. I am not a florist, but I personally think carnations are ugly. They look like a small child cut up tissue paper and pasted it together. They remind me of grade school and are, in my opinion, not at all refined.