(Closed) Case of the growing guest list!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would first send out invites to the “must-have” guests, and as they decline, you invite the “b-list” people. Do not let anyone know they are on the “b-list” and you will be fine. ONLY send out save the dates to the guests you KNOW for sure that you want to be there like the “must-have” and family or close friends.

Post # 4
12903 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is a hard call, and I’m in the exact same situation (DW for everyone else, but where we live). 

My venue has a capacity of 170, and our guest list has about 210 on it.  I went through the list with my mom and Future Mother-In-Law, and we came up with a ton of people who wouldn’t come – they either said they already couldn’t come, or people like FI’s great aunt who’s in her 90s and lives across the country who won’t be hopping a plane for someone they haven’t seen in years…  I am only sending out invitiations in excess of the 170 capacity if I know that I have someone on the list who isn’t coming. 

If they’re only be invited hoping for a gift though, I’d cross them off.  That’s a bit rude.

Post # 6
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Only send STD’s to people who will ABSOLUTELY make the final guest list.  We decided not to have a B-list because inevitably, someone will figure out that their RSVP date was different than Aunt Mildred’s or something.  We just cut the list as much as possible.  We definitely will not invite more than our venue or budget can handle… always plan for 100% acceptance!

Post # 7
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@DaneLady:  This, but also, I personally think it’s a REALLY bad idea to invite people expecting them not to come.  You never know, and if you end up with more than you can afford ot than your space will permit, you’re screwed.

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