Post # 1
Hi all, here’s the deal.
I am having a cash bar reception. There will be appetizers and non-alcoholic drinks at 6:30, and then dinner at 7:30. I’m in the process of creating the invitation wording. I have a reception insert, and I would like to indicate that we’re having “cocktail hour, dinner, and dancing.” However, a cocktail hour usually implies alcohol. Should I indicate on there that alcohol is not included? Or should I change the name “cocktail” to something else? “Appetizers” maybe?
BTW – I know some of you will have strong opinions against cash bars – but I CAN’T AFFORD ANYTHING ELSE!!!!!!! So don’t give me a hard time about it, please!!!! I’m a poor college student and my parents are not able to help me with this wedding.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t list it at all. I’d just put “Dinner & dancing to follow” or “The celebration continues with dinner & dancing”….
I’ve actually never seen someone list the cocktail hour / appetizer part on the card. I think it’s sort of implied.
You can always get the cash bar out by word of mouth or on a wedding website. I don’t think a reception card is the right place to note it.
I’m having a cash bar also (open bar for cocktail hour, though) but I haven’t made any mention of it anywhere.
Post # 4
@Christen: You could say “mocktail hour” instead of cocktail hour.
Post # 5
I had several inserts in my invites, and on the one about Location/Directions I just put something like “After dinner, wine and beer will be available for a toonie each.”
(A toonie is a CDN $2 coin. Toonie bars are pretty common here – kinda of like a half-cash bar. The couple pays half and the guests pay half in the form of a toonie.)
Post # 6
I think MissMaine was right, and you can just say “dinner and dancing to follow.” Dinner will just be slightly delayed, which is pretty normal. If you really, really want to imply that there will be a slight gap, you could say “Appetizers, dinner and dancing to follow.” I would just keep it simple, but leave the word “cocktail” out of it.
Post # 7
I am a fan of knowing its a cash bar ahead of time because I never carry cash and within my ciricle I would never expect one. If you think its the same with your guests I would say something like
“Non-hosted cocktail hour”
Post # 8
I wouldn’t put it on the reception card. Cocktail hour isn’t usually on there.
Do you have a wedding website? Ours had a section for the schedule, and it could go 6p ceremony, 7p cocktail hour (cash bar), 8p dinner etc. Or if you have an insert with directions/hotel info whatever, you could put a line about the cash bar there.
Post # 9
Thanks for the advice – I’ll just say “dinner and dancing” on the invitation and indicate the non-hosted cocktail hour on the website. Thanks!!
Post # 10
You could put “cocktail hour”, and then add a separate line for “cash bar”. To me, cocktails just means that there’s going to be booze, and it’ll be classy. : ) If you’re from an area where cash bars are common, people will probably just assume that that’s what it’ll be, too — but still specify in the invite. (Also, will your venue accept credit/debit, or just cash? If they take credit/debit, and cash, you might be able to skip putting it in, but I guess better safe than sorry.)