(Closed) Cash Bar at Rehearsal Dinner?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it okay to have a cash bar at a rehearsal dinner?
    Yes. : (53 votes)
    55 %
    No. : (43 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    How would it be tacky? It’s the rehearsal dinner. You’re buying them dinner, if they want to drink that’s their own affair!

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee

    If guests are paying for their own dinner, then it is ok for them to buy their own drinks. If you (or anyone else) are paying for their dinner, the least you can do is buy their drinks too. It’s considered rude to host a party of any kind where you offer food but charge them for anything else where they have to open their own wallets. If you cannot afford to pay for their drinks, offer what you can afford and don’t offer anything else.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee

    Why not go with a dry rehearsal dinner?  or Pay for white wine for your guests?  If you’re having alcohol at your wedding, I don’t see why you have to have it at both…

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Do you mind me asking, if you’re having 60-70 for the rehearsal dinner, how many are you having for the wedding? Must be a big do!

    And going on what Ember said, maybe it would be apt to just pay for the wine with the food then, not a full bar or anything.

    Post # 7
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    I had acash bar for my rehearsal dinner. Embarassed

    To be honest, I didn’t know what was what.   And I think the catering manager suggested it.  Or if I asked what to do, basically said it was fine.  But my Dh was not happy when he showed up to the RD… (He was OOT.  so I had to book the RD by myself.)

    It all worked out.  But if I could go back, I would have paid for the drinks.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    i second ember’s comment – its rude to have folks open their wallets on a hosted dinner. if they are paying their own meals then fine. but otherwise, i would offer standard stuff like beer or wine and leave it at that, or have a dry rehearsal dinner.

    Post # 9
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    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I am not providing alcohol at my rehearsal dinner.  I am having a completely open bar at my wedding, and I would actually rather not have my bridal party drink a ton the night before.  I don’t see rehearsal dinner as a party, ours is only about 20 people, so pretty intimate.  So they can go ahead and eat awesome steak and drink all the pepsi they want, but if they want a long island…it’s on them.  Maybe I am a jerk though, I don’t know.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee

    What do the majority of your guests drink? Many people actually don’t like wine so that would be a waste of money unless you know for a fact that your guests drink it. Many people would be happy with just sodas with just sodas if that is all you can afford.

    What type of menu are you having for your rehearsal dinner? For example, if you were having Mexican food, then most folks would rather have margaritas than wine. If you were having pizza, then beer is a popular option, but again many don’t like beer either.

    While it may not be “popular”, it is ok too to have no alcohol at all.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think the mojito sounds like a good idea. And maybe just soft drinks with dinner then! But that’s just me – I’d rather just have soda/water with food, then the drink after. Prob not a bad idea to just spring for the one cocktail, I’d say you’d like clear heads in the morning lol !!

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Well there’s your solution then. Just the mojito. Sounds like a fun night!

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would pay for a signature drink and if they want something else they can pay.

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @julieelizabeth3, that is kind of why I decided not to provide any alcohol at rehearsal.  There is a bar at the our rehearsal dinner venue as well, but they would physically have to get up and go to it.  I am not going to tell people, no you cannot drink.  But I want as clear and alert group as I can possibly have.  And my group has a tendency to be able to drink quite a bit, especially if it’s free flowing.

    So, if someone really wants to drink they can go to the bar and get something for themselves.

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