(Closed) "Cash bar" bridal shower?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

They are doing this for you.  Even if everything is not just how you would have it, I think just go with it and not say anything.  Don’t hurt their feelings.  It’s also not really your place unless you give yourself a shower. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

The good thing about bridal showers is they’re thrown by someone else. It’s the one time you get to let go of control lol If someone doesn’t like the cash bar idea, it still won’t reflect badly on you. But I think I’d understand. I read the title of this and thought “no way” but then reading the scenario I very much understand. I say don’t worry about it & just enjoy.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t be okay with this, and I’d either make it clear on the invites that because the guests are paying their own way, gifts are politely declined, or find a different venue. You could consider an afternoon event where many bars in the business-heavy districts would probably do a cheap happy hour style drinks-and-appetizers menu for pretty cheap, just because they’re so empty on the weekends.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Enjoy the beautiful party that they are throwing you and if someone doesn’t like it, it’s still not your problem since you are not the host. I think it’s wonderful that your WP is coming together the way they are, and as long as there is something to drink (alcoholic, non-alcoholic, whatever) for those who didn’t bring any cash then it’s all good. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t think that a bridal shower is an occasion where an open bar is necessary.  Are you sure that they are not planning on providing any sort of drinks? Like maybe they could pay for a champagne punch of some sort.  If I were attending a wedding shower (i’m assuming this is during the daytime) I would be happy with one drink provided to me, and then if I wanted more and I was at a bar I’d just buy one, happily! As PPs have acknowledged, anyone attending a shower knows that you didn’t organize it and also recognizes that your bridesmaids can’t necessarily pay a ton of money to throw you one.  If you are still worried about it, perhaps you could covertly arrange to pay for a round of drinks for the guests at the shower.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t expect drinks at a bridal shower, so I would see them as being completely optional anyway! I wouldn’t worry about it; I doubt anyone will be offended.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KatieBklyn:  As a drinker, I wouldn’t be upset by this.  It’s a bridal shower…i’m not planning on getting hammered.  If I buy a drink, it would be a drink I’d sip on throughout the party anyway.  It’s thrown by someone else and doesn’t represent you.  I’d let it go!  Your wedding party wouldn’t accept money anywyay and would feel pressured to come up with the funds.

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