Cash Bar: "Not Having Cash" Excuse

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I honestly never carry more than a few quarters in case my parking lots full. I can seriously not remember the last time I had cash dollars in my wallet and DH is the same way. I think it is a very valid and realistic excuse and expectation. I’m not a fan of cash bars, but it doesn’t really have much to do with not having cash, although I would hate to have to pay an ATM fee to pay for a drink at a wedding, I’d just drink water and leave early. Although I would assume the bar could take cards? I also hardly ever bring a purse or anything to a wedding. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I’m going to a fancy formal event like a wedding, I’m not bringing my full purse with me. And when I pack my tiny formal purse, I probably won’t put cash in it. Mayyyyybe $20, but that’s it. Because it’s not in a wallet, so it’s just floating free in the purse and I’d be worried that it would fall out when I pull out my phone to take pictures.

So yeah, this is a legit excuse, at least from my perspective. If I don’t expect to need cash, I don’t bring it.

Post # 4
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee

Apple_Blossom:  I carry emergency cash, emphasis on emergency.  That cash is ONLY and I do mean ONLY to provide me a means of being able to exit an unsafe situation if I need to.  I don’t spend it otherwise, and I don’t carry cash beyond my emergency cash unless I’m going to a place where I know I’ll need cash. 

Cash bars are rude in my circle because they require a hosted guest to pay for something that a host should be expected to provide, so that speaks to my feelings on question #2.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Apple_Blossom:  I never ever have cash on me.  If I do, it’s spent quickly and it tends to be a while before I end up with cash again.  The only time I have it on me is if I’m going to a festival/know I have to take a cab, or if it’s the next several days after such an event and I have some leftover.

I feel like carrying cash is 50/50, but I don’t think it’s abnormal for people to not have cash on them.

I feel like the no-cash argument is valid.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Cottage on the Creek

i literally havent had a dollar in my wallet in over a year. I charge even a snack from the vending machine.

This is the norm in my friend group. 

I think cash bars stink honestly or anything where the host isnt truly hosting the event, but if it’s unavoidable you have to tell people in advance. I have never been invited to a cash bar wedding but if I was I would like the forwarning so we could flask up in advance. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I usually don’t have any cash on me; however, I also always get some cash out of the bank if I’m travelling or going to an event where it might be useful (weddings are one of those events for me).

I think as long as you make the information available so people know to bring cash (or make sure there’s an ATM on-site), it’s not really a valid argument.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Apple_Blossom:  I rarely carry cash unless it’s specifically allocated towards something.

If I’m ever mugged it’ll be a hell of a lot easier to cancel a credit card than to get back $100 in cash.

And if you are carrying “emergency cash” why would you want to spend it at a surprise cash bar at someone’s wedding? What if there’s an emergency use for cash on the way home?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I never carry cash. The situations you mentioned are very unlikely. I always have more than 1 credit card, and a debit card if I really need it. But usually when I dress up and go out, i dont even have my wallet, I put my credit card and license along with phone and maybe lipgloss in a wristlet. If I know about the cash bar ahead of time, I usually go to the bank, but honestly, I prefer not to carry cash, especially at a wedding where I will be dancing and leaving my purse/wristlet at the table. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Sometimes I have a little bit of cash on me but not always.  I think the best scenario is to offer guests free beer/wine/champagne.  I know its expensive though so if that is not a priority for you I would just say make it known in advance that it is a cash bar.  Put that on the website or whatever so people will know to bring cash.  I don’t really mind a cash bar if I know to bring cash.  Though when I show up to an event with thousands of dollars in flowers and little candy in jars, etc. and its a cash bar I do side eye that a lot more than a more budget wedding where I really get that the bride and groom were doing what they could to afford the event.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

1) I try to have at least a $20 in my car or my purse for emergencies, yes. I’m really bad at it though since once I spend it I tend to forget to replace it since I don’t visit the ATM all too often, but I do think it’s a good habit to have.

2) Not a valid excuse at all imo. Guests think it’s rude that they’re expected to carry a measly 20 bucks on them, but it’s not rude to expect the bride and groom to shell out another 1k+ when they’ve already provided a free meal, water/sodas and dessert? BS.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Apple_Blossom:  both my husband and I always bring cash to a wedding to tip the bartenders.  They may or may not be getting a tip from the bride and groom.  So I think people’s reasoning on not carrying cash is valid, but for special events we do carry cash, and that’s where I think their reasoning isn’t valid.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Oh regarding the on-site ATMs. Usually these are no-named ATMs and charge an insane fee. I’d rather not drink than use those. The last time I got cash out of a bank that was not my own, I got charged almost $7 in fees. All that for a drink? Not really worth it for me. 

Post # 14
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3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I very, very rarely have cash on me.  Now, my husband usually takes some cash out for events that might have a cash bar, but nope, I usually don’t carry cash.  I agree that some sort of notification that it’s a cash bar would be appreciated (because generally it’s a reasonable expectation that a hosted party would have drinks provided for the guests, whether that be a full bar or some selection of options).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t typically carry enough cash to buy drinks at a wedding, but I feel that is a lame excuse for why cash bars are rude.

Where I’m from (and it’s reigonal, y’all) cash bars are rude because you’re hosting a party, therefore your guests shouldn’t have to pay for anything while they are at the party. Not because people might not have cash.

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