Cash Bar – Wedding Party Drink Free?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you’ll get mixed reviews on this decision.  Many would consider it rude to have a tiered reception of any sort, meaning some guests are given “better” dining/drinking options than others.  Maybe just host drinks for an hour, then go to cash bar?

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that would be kind of rude. Maybe pour the wedding party champagne during dinner or something but after that they should be just like everyone else.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, it is not proper etiquette.  Favoritism and singling some people out for a perk while not others is pretty universally viewed as rude.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  JiminyCricket.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yes it’s rude to treat any guest better than another. This would be like serving your WP filet and your guests chicken. I would find a way to not have a cash bar, for anyone, because they’re rude in general, but if you insist then treat everyone equally.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Nikkimcq:  It’s not proper etiquette to have a cash bar at all. Its would be adding further insult to further injury to provide hospitality to some guests while charging others.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nikkimcq:  I have only been to one wedding only where there was a drink ticket and then cash bar so I find cash bars a little weird to begin with (in my area, free beer and wine is typical). If this is normal where you are and it’s normal to see the party drink for free then maybe that’s different. I would think though that the only people who should be drinking for free when no one else is, are your family (who may be paying and at the very least, raised you both) and yourselves.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think it is rude but maybe you can have free drinks for the bridal party to consume while getting ready and such.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you cant afford or just don’t want to pay for a full bar, then maybe consider just offering beer and wine, a signature cocktail or just not having alchohol at all. It is impolite to ask your guests to pay for the hospitality that you as the hosts are supposed to be providing.  You can serve (or not serve) whatever you like but you must also provide it to your guests without asking for payment.  

Its no different than inviting someone to your house for dinner and charging them for liquer.

a lot of bees will tell you cash bars are fine and offer lots of rationalizations. That is their opinion but according to proper manners, cash bars are rude.  

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nikkimcq:  I think that’s a good plan personally, and you are right. Their gift is the bridal party gifts etc…. if you really want to you could slip each of them a few twonies to spend at the bar, but don’t let them go up and drink free when everyone else is getting their money out.

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