Post # 1
I know this has been posted about a lot… but I’m doing it again because what we’re offering isn’t a complete cash bar…
So… if you came to a wedding, it had open bar for soda/juice/coffee/tea and a champagne toast, would you be put off that it wasn’t a full open bar?
I’ve read everywhere that cash bars are tacky and rude. I would have not thought this at all, but now I’m like o_O when I read it. Then again, these are just generic wedding websites…
I think beer is kinda tacky at a formal evening wedding… it just makes me think of bars. lol. I can see about offering just wine, though. I don’t know. It seems like beer and wine isn’t worth it?
I also think drink chips are kind of tacky… I mean, I guess I don’t know how they don’t look cheap.
My family really doesn’t drink at all. Some of fiance’s family does, but he says he doesn’t think it’s worth the price… haha. Mom and grandmother hate all alcohol and don’t want any at all -_-
I mean, we spent a lot of money on food, and since people aren’t big drinkers in general, we don’t see spending another $32 a head, which mostly will go to waste. But I don’t want to be “offensive.” We’re just trying to cut costs. Our entire budget for like, everything (excluding honeymoon) is about 12k, and we’re between DC and Baltimore, so it’s already really expensive =
Has anyone done JUST wine? I saw open bar and wine/beer option, but I wonder how much just wine would be… ?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
Cash bars are perfectly okay over here in the UK, so I say go for it! Hell, if there was free tea, coffee and juice, I’ve got friends who would go bananas for that! 😀
Post # 4
It really does depend on your region and your crowd.
Amongst my crowd, your initial plan would be perfectly acceptable and at least the bare minimum of what should be offered.
I’d say do your math and if you can work the wine/beer into your budget that would probably be best otherwise no big issue. Perhaps look at doing a sangria/punch option per table or maybe a signature cocktail instead of wine. Even if people aren’t big drinkers, weddings tend to be an occasion where they will make an exception.
Post # 5
I think you should at least offer 2 or 3 glasses of wine/beer per person and then move to a cash bar if necessary. Or cash bar and put some mony into it yourselves and when that money has been used up to start charging.
Post # 6
@Hemnes: How do you do that without like… chips?
I actually just asked my venue if we can do a limited open bar… like you said, put some cash into it, and then when it runs out to do cash. I’m not sure if that’s doable?
Post # 7
In my opinion it is rude to charge ‘guests’ for anything.
Again, not snark, just my opinion, but it would be similar to the guest writing the gift check at the reception based in how good the food and drink was.
Post # 8
@yanamari: Most weddings I go to (in the UK so this is very normal), we have a welcome drink or two straight after the ceremony then two glasses of wine with dinner and a glass of champagne/prosecco for the toasts. Then it’s a cash bar (cash bar all along for spirits/beer normally).
Some weddings we have been given vouchers to exchange for drinks at the bar, and some it’s been free flowing wine throughout dinner but not after.
I love open bars so we chose a venue we could take our own, but i don’t resent paying for drinks at my friends’ weddings at all. My opinion is they are your guests and you are hosting them (being a guest at a wedding is expensive too!) so a few drinks provided is polite and those that want to drink a lot can use the cash bar for the remainder of the evening.
Post # 9
most people on our guest list asked “is it open bar”
it may bother a lot of people. so since we are trying to go cheaper we are doing our own alcohol (if your venue/ caterer lets you) its cheaper. we are just buying cases or beer/wine. and only having beer & wine.
Post # 10
I think hosting beer and wine is a good middle ground. While I generally don’t agree with cash bars, and have not attended any weddings that haven’t included an open bar, I can understand how expensive it gets. But at the same time, I think you need to give some alcoholic option, and I think offering both wine and beer is a good middle ground.
Post # 11
As you plan to do, My DH and I had amazing food at our wedding and had an open, non-alcoholic bar that featured unlimited sodas, juices, and iced tea. We offered a choice of champagne or non-alcoholic, sparkling cider for our toast; however, that was the only alcohol present and available at our wedding. Our guests still had a fabulous time and raved about our wedding.
Post # 12
Where I am located an open bar is pretty standard. But I wouldnt be offended or put off by a cash bar. Then again, I havnt been to that many weddings.
Post # 13
I think this option is fine. You’re hosting a party, and people should be thankful for whatever you provide. Since you don’t have a lot of big drinkers, this should make them content. Maybe you could find a way to put a bottle of red wine and a bottle of white wine on each table? That way people could have a glass or two, but you wouldn’t be blowing your budget on booze?
Post # 14
I think if you are super concerned about it you should do what your venue suggested. You can just tell them like “provide alcohol up to $2000” or whatever, and then beyond that it becomes cash bar. It sounds like your crowd isn’t made up of big drinkers, so as long as you put in at least enough for one drink per person you should be fine.
That being said, I drink at weddings, but I wouldn’t be offended if there was a cash bar. I would just like to know in advance since I almost never carry cash on me.
Post # 15
If you have a cash bar, I just want to know so I can bring cash with me. I often travel with just credit cards.
Post # 16
I think it’s far better to provide beer and wine the whole event than to put in, say, $2200 then go to a cash bar. It’s much easier to communicate to guests what to expect when you’re consistent about it, rather than changing the rules midstream.