Post # 1
So, what is everyone’s opinion on having a cash bar? My fiance and I are paying for most everything ourselves, and truth be told, we haven’t got a ton of cash lying around. He is set on having a cash bar – I am opposed to it. Also – friends of ours are getting married shortly after and I know for a fact they will NOT be having a cash bard…
I don’t know what to do… are any of you having a cash bar or are you all doing open bar?
Post # 3
I’d say choose one of these options: specialty drinks (limited bar) or have a dry wedding. There are wonderful yummy options for dry bars, Miss Jasmine posted a nice article on this. You’d never invited people over to your house and charge them for drinks, and it shouldn’t be any other way at your wedding.
We’re having a full open bar
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I would avoid a cash bar. If this limits you to only serving beer and wine, I still think its a better option than having a full cash bar. See if you can cut corners here and there to accomodate at least one kind of alcoholic beverage on your budget, at the very least, a nice supply of champagne. If not, I’d probably just go dry wedding. We’re doing beer, wine, and champagne on us only, no hard liquor (cause we’re at a winery and our venue forbids it, which I’m kind of happy about cause it significantly cuts costs!). GL!
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Post # 6
Definitely no cash bar. I went to a wedding this fall, and they were on a budget as well – they had beer, some bottles of wine, and then some premixed drinks in pretty jar thingys. Plently of alcohol, all bought wholesale, and definitely not expensive. There are definitely ways to cut corners, and still have happy guests!!
Post # 7
I’ve only been to one wedding ever that had an open bar. All the rest have had cash bars, but maybe it’s just more common in my area (ottawa, canada).
We are having a champagne and rum punch during cocktails and wine with dinner. After dinner, the cash bar will open, but champagne will still be free.
Post # 8
In general cash bar is a bad idea, although I have been to weddings like knusdon’s where some alcohol (usually wine, beer and champagne) was free and mixed drinks were not. You can also serve mixed drinks only during the cocktail hour to cut costs, and then have a couple of bottles of wine on each table for the dinner hour. I think its best to serve what you can afford, even if that is limited or no alcohol. Anybody who leaves because they can’t get a drink, or can’t get a specific kind of drink, has a problem!
Post # 9
You could provide wines and beer and liquor as cash bar?
A friend of mine did it this way and no one said anything about it being weird.
Post # 10
We’re opting for a dry wedding because we don’t have the money for an open bar and we don’t want the responsability of people drinking and then driving. But then again, or wedding is at 2pm and is expected to end by 7pm. So, I’m biased in recommending a dry wedding if your on a budget.
However, on another board I’m on, the concensus was that it’s ok to have a cash bar but it’s preferable to put something about it in the invitation so that people know to bring cash and they know what to expect. Something like, "Wine will be served with dinner. Cash bar open the rest of the evening." Good luck and remember that your guests should be coming to celebrate your union and not to get drunk on your tab!
Post # 11
you could offer wine and beer and the rest cash bar as a compromise- I think open bar is more common but it is obviously your decision in the end as to whether or not you want to pay. . .
Post # 12
I asked a similar question previously… see the thread posted above.
I think it really depends on the area in which you live. In some places it is totally acceptable, at others I am under the assumption it is not.
It’s fully reasonable to not have a complete open bar. As long as you have a few drink tickets, or some wine on the table, there will be no complaints (and anyone who complains is not really at your wedding for the right reasons). As some above posters noted – you wouldn’t invite someone to your house and charge them – yes this may be true, but you would only be required to provide them with a reasonable amount of liquor…. a few glasses of wine or a few beers.
Think of other options:
1. limited open bar – in either time, or drink options (ie. free drinks until dinner, and/or only beer and cheaper wines available for free),
2. put a bottle of red and white on each table
3. have an open bar to a certain amount (tell your reception place you are only willing to spend X number of dollars and turn it into cash at that time)
4. give people drink tickets for as many drinks as you feel comfortable with paying for.
hope this helps!
Post # 13
I would avoid a cash bar as well. Only do what you can afford. Perhaps just do wine and beer.
See if you can purchase your own alcohol and buy it in bulk from Costco or Total Wine.
Or just have a dry wedding. I think everyone will understand. AND maybe a friend could host an after-party at a nearby bar.
Post # 14
For our reception we are having an 2000 dollar open bar and then it will turn to a cash bar. Many of our friends do not drink. I just think it will nice to geive everyone the opportunity to have a drink with the toast.
Post # 15
We are offering one hour of open bar during the cocktail hour and wine with dinner. This really kept our costs down.
Post # 16
I think that’s a great idea. It also sort of naturally tapers off the drinking, so that you don’t have to worry so much about people getting home.