Casual proposal?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 4
442 posts
Helper bee

I think whatever works for you is great! I feel somewhat similar about my SO…he is the WORST at surprises and it’s adorable! As much as I would love a grand gesture in theory, I feel like ours will end up casual and I will just be so excited to be engaged.

Post # 5
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I agree… we knew we wanted to marry for a long time, and then I knew when the ring came since I chose it and we ordered it together.

So we didn’t have a “proposal” per se… but same end result.

Post # 6
10838 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mackenzie810: The most simplest proposals can be the most touching. I’d have loved yo get out of the shower to find ‘Marry Me’ written on the mirror from the steam. Do what makes you both happy.

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

A lot of Bees think that’s the best proposal of all! One where both parties are involved in a mutual decision to get married!

Post # 10
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hey if it’s not you, it’s not you! We definitely didn’t have a big grand proposal either. We had even together 6 years, owned a house together, and had gone ring shopping and he bought the ring with our joint account because we get more rewards points that way. So it wasn’t exactly a secret, and he pretty much just popped it out one day and that was it, now we were engaged. 

Post # 12
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

A proposal that suits the two of you will mean so much more than an over-the-top proposal that doesn’t. My FI proposed to me when we relaxing on our couch (and I was sick!) and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. 

Post # 13
1125 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

In my mind, you are already engaged, and if this is how you feel too and you don’t think you’d regret having no proposal, then just start wearing your ring!

DH and I decided to get married while talking in the car ride home from work one day.. there was no ring, he didn’t officially ask me. We just discussed and made the decision and went to buy a ring together a few days later. There is nothing I would change in my engagement story because it’s totally us – cozy, low-key, making decisions as a team.

my friend thought the proposal was super important and she made her now husband buy her the ring and hold on to it until he came up with the perfect proposal… He held on to the ring for like two years before she finally asked him what his deal was. He agreed it made no sense and officially asked her. In the end she got a very simple proposal but realized that she loved it that way. She regretted pressuring him for the proposal, and he regretted being an ass and keeping the ring for so long before making things official. They are married and very happy and now laugh about it all…

talk with your SO… Is it important for you to have a formal proposal? Is it important to him to propose to you formally? If so, then wait. If not, just declare yourselves engaged and be happy!

Post # 14
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My FI proposed on the couch after a vacation. He was still nervous! 🙂

My stocking is at my mom’s house, and it’s like the biggest stocking I’ve ever seen. My sister and I routinely leave things in them and then have to go dig around them for like 10 minutes to find all the little nick-nacks in there. So the mental image of a ring in my stocking made me giggle, I’d never find it! (seriously it’s like a giant’s sock)

But you should talk to him and let him know a casual proposal is OK with you, and that you saying that is not a test or a trap, haha 🙂

Post # 15
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mackenzie810:  I don’t understand. There has been an agreement to marry, you’re wearing the ring and making plans for your wedding. You are already engaged. A proposal would be redundant. 

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