Post # 1
We are having a semi destination wedding on the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend. Everyone is from out of town (most guests are hour and half – three hours away). I specifically chose to have a daytime wedding and lunch reception so that guests had to option to still drive home or stay in town and make a weekend out of it. About 30% of our guests booked hotel rooms for the weekend. I would like to invite everyone that is staying in town to a welcome/rehearsal dinner on Saturday.
We rented a pretty big house on the river for the wedding party and my family coming in from Canada. It has a huge yard and a dock house perfect for parties and BBQs and such. The wedding food will be southern comfort foods catered by Paula Deen’s restaurant, so I wanted to do seafood for the rehearsal. I was thinking a low country boil and fish fry. I’ve found a few catering companies that do this but it’s like $20+ a person (not really in the budget for 40 people) and I know its soooo much cheaper to do it ourselves.
My mom thinks it’s a terrible idea to do it ourselves. She thinks it’ll be too much work, and that we should relax the day before the wedding. I don’t want to relax I want to party! She wants to do a proper rehearsal dinner with just close family. A sit down dinner would end up costing about the same as a low country boil at the house, but then we could include everyone! It’s not in the budget to do a formal dinner and some sort of welcome dinner for all of the out of towners.
So what do you think hive? Convince my mom that the low country boil is a good idea, or do a restaurant dinner and leave out the Out of Town guests.
Post # 3
I vote low country boil!! It would make the weekend so festive and get everyone ready for your big day.
Post # 4
Is there any room for compromise? I don’t know how much work is involved in a low country boil and fish fry as I’ve never been to one. If it truly is a fair amount of work as your mom thinks, could you still host the OOT’s but do something else? pizza? pasta? chowder, biscuits and dessert? traditional picnic with salads and cold cuts?
Post # 5
I like the idea of the big rehersal dinner–that’s pretty nice and makes everyone feel welcomed for the weekend!
Post # 6
I am sure it would be a ton of fun to do a party with all out of town guests; however, I have to agree with you mom that it sounds like too much work to do yourself the night before your wedding. The morning of the day before my wedding was spent doing last minute errands. That afternoon I got a pedicure with the girls. We also had a simi destination wedding at a rented estate and we did do the big rehearsal dinner; however, ours was catered. Even with the catering we still had to do our rehearsal and of course we were running a bit late. Once we finally ate we were able to sit back and relax a little and have some fun, but I can tell you there is NO way I would have had time to cook a thing. My family was also busy that day and I am very thankful that they didn’t have the added stress of trying to figure out when to cook and present food to everyone. If you really want to do the big party see if you can find a less expensive catering option….don’t put the extra stress on your mom. Also, who is paying for the dinner? That will help dictate the plan.
Post # 7
I think it would be perfectly manageable to have the low country boil/fish fry. Granted, I have never been to a low country boil, but at our summer campground we do fish fries often, and by the time you get our group of families together, there are over 40 of us, easy. If you’ve got someone who agrees to be in charge of the food, it’s really not that much work at all, especially if things are laid out and ready to go.
I’m a big advocate of do what makes you as a couple happy, because it’s your wedding, and your memories to build.
Post # 8
@MzMarzipan: FI’s parents are paying, but they just gave me a check for $500 and want me to just make all of the plans. If we go over $500 Fiance and I have about $200-300 we can contribute.
Good news though, I may have found a good medium. After emailing and calling many local catering companies I found one that is $14.50 per person and it includes the low country boil, biscuits, rice, slaw, desserts, and drinks! Just have to add the 7% tax and a one time delivery charge of $20. So for 40 people it’ll be about $620, which seems very doable.
Post # 9
My bridal party and future SIL are bbqing for our welcome dinner for our guests. We all are staying on the same block. I think it’s going to be fun, and bbqing is always a social activity. I vote for DIY and save some money.