(Closed) Catching up after my husband's accident.

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Macintosh:  No advice on TTCing but glad to see you back! 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You have time to wait. Give yourself, and him, time to adjust to your new lifestyle. Maybe put a time frame on it – two years?

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am so glad to hear this update!!!

I am 31, and am not even thinking about officially trying for kids until next year, when I will be 32 (almost 33).  You have time.  Right now, you should spend your extra time worrying about and taking care of your husband.  Kids will come later.

 

Again, so happy to hear you’re doing better.  =D

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so glad to learn of his recovery. Even though he has a long road in front of him, the improvement he has made so far is amazing.

To be honest, my decision about whether or not to become pregnant in your situation would deoend on finances. Are you able to support your family on your own  income ? What income would you have when off on maternity leave?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Glad to see you back, and to hear of such wonderful progress. You’re such a strong woman!

I would talk to your gyno about how long you can wait to TTC. In your position I think I would use protection for a little while.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@JrzyGurl: is a smart lady.  I would listen to her.

I’m so glad to hear that your husband has made such great improvements.  I know you’ve still got a long road ahead of you, but you’ve got a long road behind you, too.  Your husband sounds like a fighter, and it sounds like you’re the best darn cheerleader a guy could ask for.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Macintosh:  Wow! What an amazing story. So glad you’ve joined WB again, and I’ll pray for your husband’s continued recovery.

As far as TTC, I know it’s probably tempting to just “let it happen,” or NTNT, but try to imagine what situation you’d be putting yourself in. I would hate to see you have to take care of yourself and your husband while pregnant. That’s too much stress on a pregnant lady. 🙂 Maybe give it jsut a little longer? If this short time has improved your husband so much already, what could another 6 months to 1 year do? It might make all the difference.

Sending good vibes your way!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

So glad to hear from you and glad to hear your husband is still on the road to recovery.   Big hugs!!   I wish you the best of luck with TTC, whatever your decision.  🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2006

Glad to hear positive updates on your hubby. I don’t know about the baby..I have two kids of my own and it isnt easy.It can be physically and financially and mentally draining. Take your time and really think about it. May be you should still focus on your hubby and wait for a while..:)

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am so glad he is doing better! 

Not having been in a situation anything like yours,  please feel free to ignore my opinion but I think waiting a little longer would be better. Figuring out what “normal” for you and dh is going to be,  get used to whatever adjustments will be your life, then add a kid. You are 30,  still plenty of time to give it a year or two to get settled back into.life with the two of you,  figuring out how you work together now. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No advice, but I want to say I’m very happy to hear things are progressing postively. 🙂 All the best to you both 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Macintosh:  i was just thinking about you and your husband last week.  thank you so much for the update.  i have no advise regarding ttc but wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers have been with you throughout this tough journey.  we were date twins.  i am so glad that your dh is progressing positively.  i wish you both the best.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was so happy to see you posted an update, your post has made me misty eyed. i’m so happy your husband is making such good progress and how incredible that you guys are able to make love again 🙂 I can see why you would want to TTC but i think it would be better to wait a year, if your husband has come a long way since the accident, imagine how much easier things will be for the both of you in a year? 31 is still as good as 30 to have a baby 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Macintosh:  I’m so happy to see you back, lovey!!!! Congratulations to you and Justin for having come so far in his journey to recovery! I’m so happy to hear he’s doing so well! As for TTC, you have plenty of time to wait until you feel more secure and more sure about the next steps. If you’re worrying at all about your fertility, maybe make an appointment with your doctor if you can to check your ovarian reserve? If that checks out, maybe you’d feel more comfortable waiting?
Regardless of the decision you make, we’re here to support you through.
What an awesome update!!!!! *hugs*

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