Caterers & Vendors Being Bossy & Pushy! I'd Rather DIY!

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
Member
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@alexysmyzpha:  if she is the one trying to cancel on you, maybe she will be willing to refund your deposit. It sounds like she’s second guessing her ability to execute what you’re looking for.

Post # 4
Member
79 posts
Worker bee

@alexysmyzpha:  I agree with PP’s line of reasoning. This caterer sounds like she wants to back out of the contract, meaning that she needs to be willing to refund your deposit.

I would ask her (reiterate, be clear, and get everything in one email) whether she thinks that she can handle your wedding. If not, then she needs to refund your deposit. Do you think you can find another caterer? Are you limited by your venue?

Post # 6
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t understand why she does want to worry about the centerpieces and runners? That seems really weird for a caterer to take care of stuff like that.

It sounds like she is trying to be more of a wedding planner instead of just a caterer.

Post # 7
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This caterer is out of line. She’s working for you, she shouldn’t be giving you attitude or saying she “feels cheated.” This all sounds unprofessional. If she continues to doubt you and second guess your requests I would ask for your deposit back. It doesn’t sound like you’re initiating the cancellation if she can’t hold up her side of the agreement. 

Post # 10
Member
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would say find a new vendor as your seem to be bending your whole wedding around her which is crazy. I would not give her any more money, it sounds she like she may not even deliver the goods and might run away with the money.

Post # 11
Member
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@alexysmyzpha:  your caterer is telling you to use a restaurant!? My brain can’t even get around that. I’ve had friends be told by caterers that they can’t make a dish but that is always because they requested the change after booking them (booked a french caterer and then decided they wanted a Thai menu.  It blows my mind that she agreed to make a dish and is now complaining about having to actually make it. I would be very upset with her. 

Post # 12
Member
25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@alexysmyzpha:  I’m really confused by all of this too. Vegan dish – large grilled  portobello mushrooms with a garlic and olive oil sauce with some kind of cilantro bean salad that maybe ahs a kick to it? Indian curry – getting the spice mix correct is the issue. It’s basically a stew.  cook it up with some rice and spiced chick peas and call it a day.  Curry is a SUPER easy thing to make on a LARGE scale. Some hummus with pine nuts and garlic in the middle and some steamed edamame as appetizers. DONE

My vendors are very up fornt wiht telling me to buy my own linens to save me money. I dont understand why yours is going over board. Your DEPOSIT was $2000?! Are they providing the tables, plates, cuttlery?

Send her some links to a curry that sounds like something you’re used to eating.  maybe point her in the right direction.

I work in teh corporate world, and if someone was this wishy washy then the contract would be void since her part what that she could cook it. if she cant hold up her end of the contract then it’s null. You’d probably have ot take her to court to get your money back tho.

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