Post # 1
So, I’m in a bind with my Fiance’s family. We have an extremely tight budget and we’re having a wedding/reception with 150+ guests! I really want to have simple catering, somewhere like Cici’s pizza or Fazoli’s because we love that but my fiance’s grandmother has me backed in a corner trying to force the idea of a home catered appetizer buffet thing. His cousin’s wedding had that recently and it took them like 30 minutes to get the food out and some of it was already cold. I really don’t know how to get out of this! Help!!
Post # 3
Do what you want. Plain and simple. Be courteous to FI’s grandmother but do what you want for your wedding.
Post # 4
You just squeeze her shoulders, tell her how thoughtful and sweet she is but that you are going to get it catered.
Post # 5
What about having her do a few things along with the catering? Maybe she could make pasta salads or some other cold dishes?
Post # 6
A few homemade things to supplement things will probably fine, but catering apps for 150 would be crazy (for me anyway 🙂 ).
Do what’s going to make the day enjoyable for you!
Post # 7
I’m always iffy when it comes it comes to situations like this. For my wedding, i don’t care how much savings there is, it will be catered by professionals. I don’t want to have to deal with Cousin Suzy not showing up on time with her plate of whatever. You and your FH already have a plan, just stand your ground. Frankly it doesn’t concern your Groomsmen. You need to start establishing boundaries about your new baby family and doing decisions together. Use this incident as a way to start practicing from now.
Post # 8
it is your day, so do what you want. just tactifully explain to grandma that though it was right for the other wedding it is not what you would like for your own… good luck!
Post # 9
Get your FH to back you up as you talk to the grandma. home cooking buffets would be great only if you have enough hands to work preparing the food. it may also add another level of stress to you. so do what you think is best.
Post # 10
I have been to a few weddings that had home cooking and it was an incredible amount of work and stress on the part of those involved in preparing the food and they didn’t really have the opportunity to enjoy the wedding.
While good (inexpensive) food is always a plus I would lean towards catering just to relieve the stress and pressure on your grandmother, allowing her to enjoy your wedding.
Have you considered BBQ catering? My cousin it doing this and it is very inexpensive and tasty.
Post # 11
Nothing at all wrong with the type of catering you are planning to go with. If someone doesnt like it, they don’t have to eat it, especially when they are not paying. No one has the right to give you guilt trips over your plans.
That said, keep in mind that most venues require you to have food made by an establishment that has been licensed by the health dept (this applies to any restaurant/catering company). Unless you are having the reception in your backyard, you cannot bring in homemade food because the venue will be the one blamed if anyone gets sick.