Post # 1
Is anyone doing this? Do you know anyone who has? I am reading a book called “Priceless Wedding”. It is actually pretty good, about how this couple had a budget of $2000, but wanted it to be a nice affair and reflect them as a couple, not go by the standards everyone else has as to what makes a “perfect” wedding. It really gives great ideas on budgeting, but the self catering is scary! Of course, they had friends help them out. However, I would feel weird asking my friends/family to do this for me. I want them to enjoy the day with me, not slave away! A wedding is a HUGE undertaking, even if you have experience with catering. Any thoughts?
PS: There is also a book out there called “Cater Your Own Wedding”. It gives a breakdown of several different types of receptions, with the amounts of food, table set up, etc. It’s really interesting, and if this is your route, it’s worth a read.
Post # 3
I thought about doing this, but I agree with you, the idea is pretty scary.
I think really the only ways you could do this would be with either finger foods, stations or cake and punch type receptions. Obviously doing a full meal would be pretty tough, unless you where planning to do a bbq or something. We did our own e-party, which basically involved us making sandwiches, cupcakes, pastries, cakes ect. That worked out fine, but I don’t know how you could do a full blown meal and have that work well when you’re so busy with everything else.
Post # 4
I think it’s a terrible idea. The few days before my wedding, I was trying to get everything together, and going back and forth between running around like a nut and trying to relax and hang out with family and friends. If I then had to cook meals for one hundred or more people, I may have called off the entire thing.
Post # 5
I’m not catering my own wedding, but we are having it catered by fazoli’s.. we are doing our own social hour food, which is only going to be items that we can slap together in a jif and that can be kept in a fridge.
Post # 6
@brendaray2009: It depends and sorta. I plan to do something like this. I have a network of people, (family & friends) that go to my church. Churches often have the experience of serving food to large groups. (Churches don’t always do potlucks these days) My FMIL, she wants to be in charge of the food for the wedding. She usually does all the dinners for church, for church camps, large dinners. She knows how to do it cheap and easily. I told my FI that she can be incharge under one condition she puts someone else in charge the day of the wedding. She will not be in the kitchen that day. I also am trying my best not to have any my family or his in the kitchen either. Most of my church people want to help out and this is a great way. We pay for the food but the labor is given freely by friends.
Post # 7
I did most of my own food but it was a very casual family style BBQ
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - local park
We are doing our own food, but it’s a taco bar…so there’s minimal cooking, some reheating (nacho cheese, beans, etc.) but most of it is just cold stuff chopped up.
Post # 9
We are. My mom and aunts will be cooking, we will bake the day before. We have a family friend doing the last minutes, transporting the food, a rented food warmer, we also will have a wait staff and bartender. The desert bar is my baby, lol! My mom is actually doing thanksgiving dinner at her school tomorrow, 2 days prep, will feed 85 people. She teaches family and consumer sciences (home ec, nutrition, etc) We have done food for 120 people, we will have 100 guests at the wedding.
ETA: those events have had the same style of food that we will be serving at the wedding. Buffet style, Jamaican cuisine.
Post # 10
@brendaray2009: Honestly, if FI and I already owned a house or knew someone with a big backyard that’s what we would have done (asking for the help of our parents and some aunts who LOVE cooking). But I sure wouldn’t do anything alone, that’s too much to organize, even for a small event of 50-60 people.
Post # 11
@brendaray2009: I think it depends on what type of food you’re doing. Steaks cooked to order probably won’t work so well, but something like pulled pork or a pasta bar could be amazing. I baked my own sweet n salty buffet and I think it was totally worth it.
Post # 12
@brendaray2009: we catered our own wedding. My SIL’s made most of the food along with some cousins/aunts helping out. Then we had other family members transport it all to the reception hall and set it up. We’ve always done this for our events (quinceneras, weddings, ect.) so it really wasn’t anyting out of the norm for our families.
ETA: We had buffet style with wait staff who picked up plates, refilled drinks and all that jazz, and we had over 200 guests.
Post # 13
I catered my own wedding and baked my cakes. It was a casual outdoor wedding in the fall with about 100 guests. Borrowed long tables from my MIL’s church and she had nice collection of tableclothes that we used. We bought apples and pears, dried fruit and nuts in bulk, lots of good cheese and crackers. A couple friends and family helped us cut and plate everything up right after the wedding, while i was busy putting the finishing touches on the 3 cakes I had made (if there was a theme to the edding it was definitely Variety). FIL grilled 3 pork loins for the guests, and my dad grilled a bunch of salmon. We did buy 6-8 loaves of excellent bread, 48 mini quiches (cut into 4s), and cinnamon rolls from a local bakery (Wheatfield’s in Lawrence, KS). We had lots of apple cider, coffee, and tea and champagne, prosecco, and local beer for those that wanted alcohol. It was super chill, and I highly recommend it for any bride on a budget who enjoys entertaining and cooking. My photographer got some really fun shots of me with my game face on, frosting the cakes in my gown.
Post # 14
@brendaray2009: I have that book, too! I know she did say in there or on her blog that one thing she felt bad about was the person assigned to cook the fajitas (I think that’s what it was) ended up had a more overwheming workload than they anticipated during the reception, which was a bummer.
@twocrowpress: LOL, that’s pretty badass you were frosting cakes in your gown. Sounds like a really fun (and yummy!) wedding. 🙂