Catholic Bees: Will my dress be appropriate? Please help me!

posted 4 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s perfectly fine, as long as there’s no parish specific dress code stating that you need to have sleeves (Some require at least elbow length, etc.  I don’t really get it because 99% of the time those sleeves are lace which you can see through anyway, but I don’t make the rules).  I know a lot of brides who wore strapless to their Catholic wedding, so the priest likely wont have a problem with it. 

I don’t know about older guests though.  Sometimes they can be a little picky.

Post # 4
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111 posts
Blushing bee

You need to ask your priest, the Rules tends to vary. If he is not ok with the cap sleeves, get a bolero for the ceremony. If he’s not ok with the cleavage there are removable illusion necklines. So where one of those. After the ceremony you can take it off and party strapless!

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

You should be fine, but check with the specific parish just to be sure. The most common rule (among parishes that have one – not all do) is “no bare shoulders,” but individual priests do have the authority to set the rules for their own parish and so if yours happens to be extra strict, it’s wise to make sure.

Post # 6
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have been to a number of weddings at our church and our parish priest could care less, I have even seen strapless and strapless bridesmaids at every wedding. So I think it is really up to the individual priest. I have straps on my dress but the church was not a consideration. You need to discuss this with the priest

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Lovely – but definately with the sleaves and no cleavage.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@sunshinewish15:  Finding dresses with short sleeves can be a huge challenge.  Even when they do have sleeves, designers love to highlight women’s sexual features. Its just a sad reality.

I’m sure you’ll be fine though.  Just remember, that often adjusting a strapless gown so that it sits higher tends to also rise where it hits under the arms which can be annoying.  Granted, the sleeves on my gown pinned my arms down and left me no room for raising my arms up. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@sunshinewish15:  your dress is really beautiful. I’ve attended many catholic weddings and your dress is more than appropriate. I can’t see you having any problems:))

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sunshinewish15:  Short answer – and I’m sure others have said it but it’s bed time and I didn’t read them – ask the priest.  If he says ok, great.  If he says no, that sucks.

There is also the school of thought saying “it is simpler to ask forgiveness afterward, than permission beforehand.”  Meaning, if you show up in it, what’s the priest going to do – refuse to marry you?  Unlikely.  Beside which, the sacrament of marriage is conferred on each other, by the bride and bridegroom.   The celebrant is merely ceremonial.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Duncan:  He wont refuse to marry you, but the can make you put a robe/cover on before doing so.  Which would not be fun.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@Duncan:  It’s true that the bride and groom confer the sacrament of matrimony on one another, but the celebrant is not “merely ceremonial.” Good luck getting the Church to recognize a self-uniting wedding between two Catholics when the priest refuses to officiate!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@M72727:  It was entirely a tongue in cheek comment 😛

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@twoangels:  

i completely agree there seems to be an obsession among designers to make wedding dresses sexy which is all wrong. mine had sleeves to but it was hard to find something elegant & pretty but modest

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@sunshinewish15:  I agree with everyone. The dress is fine (and beautiful). It all depends on your parish. 

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