(Closed) Catholic bees…are you doing a unity candle/sand thing?

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Nope! We are not allowed to in our ceremony – which is fine by me, I think they’re a bit redundant anyway since a wedding is already, by definition, a unity ceremony.

Some Catholic churches do these routinely, others discourage them but reluctantly allow them if the couple really wants one, others forbid them outright.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Willow1991:  If your church is traditional I would assume that it is not allowed. The unity candle does not originate from the Catholic tradition, so it is generally discouraged. I know some ceremonies have this, but it is not in the rite and therefore shouldn’t be included.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Most Catholic Churches won’t let you do this.  The unity activities aren’t traditional at all.  They’re a new ‘tradition’ and like PP said, redundant.

When I asked my Catholic mother what, if anything, she requested we do in our ceremony, I brought up unity candles and sand ceremonies.  She said, “OH my no! That’s so pagan!”

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

I wonder how people came to think of unity candles as Catholic.  I read a great, short piece about how the flame is supposed to represent the holy spirit and the whole unity candle ritual goes against that (one candle for wife, one for husband, unity candle for the two lives togehter). 

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Thats funny, I am catholic but i have also studied Theology and most (close to all) catholic traditions are derived from or still ‘pegan’. The candle ceremony is a symbolism of two christian lights joining to become one the same way bread and wine was symbolism for the blood and body of christ.

This sort of ceremony is not new, infact it has had its “hey day” on and off during the past few centuries. No catholic preist should have an issue wth this, should they know their history.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No. I don’t see the point of any of these ceremonies since you’re having the whole catholic wedding part. Like pp’s say, it’s kind of redundant. I’m pretty sure my church will not allow either of these, but we’re getting married in a super consevative diocese.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@justcurious333:  In the Catholic Church, the bread and wine are not really used much as symbols for the body and blood… that emphasis is something you’ll find in Protestant communities.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nope, didn’t want to do any of that unity stuff. I want the ceremony to focus on the readings and the vows 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@justcurious333:  It’s true that the Church has incorporated elements of pagan traditions (the Christmas tree, fertility symbols related to Easter, etc.). With the case of the unity candle, though, the objection is not just its pagan origin, it’s also (and primarily) the redundancy of adding something extra to the ritual that already expresses unity through the exchange of rings and vows, and because it muddies the symbolism of candles in the sanctuary: the Paschal candle symbolizes Christ, the Light and the Word of God. It’s inappropriate for the unity candle to receive more attention than the Paschal candle during the wedding liturgy. The symbolism is improved a little bit if, say, the couple finds their baptismal candles and uses them, lighting them from the Paschal candle – but it’s still redundant.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@justcurious333:  Not to get off topic, but Catholic doctrines are neither borrowed from the mystery religions nor introduced from pagans after the conversion of Constantine. There may be similarities between practices, but similaritiy does not mean a direct connection with.


And as a PP said, the Eucharist is not a symbol for Catholics

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