Post # 1
Catholic Brides ,
Will you attend mass the next day ? For example , we are getting married on a Saturday and our family insists that we go to church on Sunday . This would be fine if our Saturday reception wasn’t going to run late ; i planned on dancing the whole night long since my fiance and i are paying for this entire wedding ourselves . I intend to enjoy it to the last minute (lol)
And to make matters worst , we have another reception on Sunday starting as soon as 1 pm . P.S: This second reception is according to my culture and tradition and it is a must . The problem is I can already see myself tired and grumpy towards people at the Sunday reception . I seriously wish i can sleep some more on Sunday (lol), since we have to be in church by 10 AM
Anyway , if you would be attending mass , what do you plan on wearing ? Would you still wear white ?
Post # 3
Our ceremony on Sat is a full mass so no…I will not be attending mass on Sunday.
Frankly..you’ll be a married couple, your parents can’t “force” you to do anything.
Post # 4
I’m with PinkPinstripes. If it was a full mass and you had communion, I wouldn’t go the next morning. I don’t see anything wrong with that. 🙂
Post # 5
My husband and I did attend Mass the next morning at 8am (our reception went late as well). Our wedding was a full Mass at 3pm on Saturday, but since the readings were not those of the Sunday Mass, it did not fulfill the Sunday obligation. We went to Mass at 8, then had to leave right away so we could get to the airport with enough time to spare for our honeymoon. Honestly, we should have been exhausted since we barely got sleep the week before the wedding, but we were running on adrenaline from the excitement of the weekend that we weren’t even tired when we woke up to go to Mass and pack! You may be able to get a dispensation, but I would ask the priest celebrating your wedding about that.
Just my two cents, going to Mass together is not a bad way to start your marriage 🙂
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Post # 7
Technically (and this is according to the church, not my own opinion) a mass on Saturday only counts for your weekend “obligation” if it begins after 4pm (I believe). So depending on when your ceremony mass is on Saturday it may or may not TECHNICALLY fulfill your “obligation”.
You didn’t say in your post above, but are you having a full nuptial mass or just a ceremony?
Post # 8
@Zuzu2and11: Ours will be a full mass as well , but i like the way you put it . It really wont be a bad idea to start our new life together by going to church on Sunday . Hopefully we have the same adrenaline as you did .
Post # 9
@calypso0712: It’s after 4pm AND has to have the sunday readings… (i.e. not customized to the couples liking.)
We had a 4pm mass but it wasn’t fulfilling our Sunday obligation so we attended the 11am mass. We usually go to 9 so we didn’t want to wake up too early or run into a lot of people we know, lol.
Post # 10
does your church have a 5pm mass?
Post # 11
@ohhlala: we were SO tired but I was dragged to mass by my extended family who were visiting. Our ceremony was at 3pm on Saturday so it didn’t count for sunday. Darling Husband got out of it by taking a nap. Again, we had a late reception, we were running on no sleep and excitement. I think we must have gotten 3 hours of sleep on our wedding night just because we had to visit with so many people who were staying with us (we left to get to our hotel at 2am)
Post # 12
We went the next morning at 11 am. We got a giggle out of the parallels between that Mass and our wedding Mass…it was bizarre!
Post # 13
My mother, who is pretty darn close to The Church Lady, would definitely want everyone at mass on Sunday morning after a Saturday night wedding. I don’t really feel compelled to fulfill “the Sunday obligation” (even though my wedding is on Friday night) and got room blocks at a hotel that’s across the street from one of the three Catholic churches here.
Post # 14
@bookworm88: We will still be at our Sunday reception . I think i will just pack a couple of Red Bull (lol)
Post # 15
We didn’t have mass at our wedding (I’m not Catholic) and Darling Husband didn’t get there the next day. He does go regularly and no one seemed to care when they met us for lunch at mom’s the next afternoon.
Post # 16
Yeah, like others have said, the wedding mass doesn’t fulfill your obligation. Despite that, we did not attend mass on Sunday (we had to drive 5 hours back home, and pack for our honeymoon, leaving for the airport at 4:30am on Monday). My husband is one of the most routine mass attenders I have ever known, and he usually lets it go the day after weddings (obvious exception for when we attend non-Catholic weddings).