Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
So, we’re having a full nuptial mass for the wedding. However, the majority of the people attending aren’t actually Catholic. I am, and my mum’s family are, but my Dad’s side of the family, most of our friends, and my FILs are not Catholic at all (FH hadn’t even met a Catholic before he met me!).
I wanted to try and help them out by putting some more detail into the order of service, giving the responses to some of the trickier bits (the things which require a bit more than ‘Amen’), but I’m struggling. If I only put in the bits that require responses, I have a big chunk at the start, then just the headings of what’s happening (Readings, Vows, Homily etc etc) then another HUGE chunk for the Eucharist, and then more headings and it looks a bit uneven and weird.
What did you guys do for your weddings? My mum says just to do the bare-bones order of service and let people work it out, but that doesn’t seem fair (particularly when I know FH would like a crib sheet for the day, so he knows what to say when!), but if I put the whole text in it becomes HUGE.
Help me bees!
Post # 2
I included all the main parts, but abbreviated most things that weren’t singing or requiring responses. It made a little four page program (two regular sized pieces of paper, stapled in the middle and folded into a little book. I think I used some template like this one: http://www.catholicweddinghelp.com/topics/catholic-wedding-program-template-mass.htm. It wasn’t bad. For the readings and such, I’d just put for example,, “First reading – Psalm 13” and right under that, who was doing the reading. My side of the family likes to sing, so I included music so they wouldn’t have to bother with the hymnals. If you don’t do that, it’d probably be shorter and simpler.
I liked having a detailed program, especially since most guests were not Catholic and didn’t know a lot of what was going on. That way, they’d know when to stand, when to sit, what’s happening, etc.
Post # 3
chronicwhimsy: I wouldn’t bother with putting responses in. If you simply must, put together a small booklet as they do for kids sometimes which is very brief.
It is a wedding mass. I do not think people are going to want to dive deep and participate beyond supporting you and your FH with their presence. If they aren’t Catholic, there’s no need for you to school them so literally. The cues of when to sit, stand and kneel would be good though if there aren’t going to be a lot of people knowing when to do it themselves OR you can have the priest verbally cue and say, “please be seated,” “please stand,” “please kneel.” I’ve seen that happen at Christmas masses.
Here’s a link:
Post # 4
Catholic wedding help is a life saver! I actually introduced a couple priests to it!
A lot of parishes since the change over in the wording now have a sheet in the pew with the responses, or did not to long ago. I would see about tracking down one of those and either putting it in the pews or handing it it with your programs.