Post # 1
Catholic brides getting married on a Saturday.. are you having the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner on Friday?
I always thought rehearsal dinners were held the night before, ie always on a Friday before a Saturday wedding. My parents seem to think it’s on Thursday, and that Friday is for “picking up last minute things”… I just assumed we’d be doing last minute things during the day on Friday, and have the rehearsal & dinner in the evening. We just had a big argument over it, as I’ve never heard of doing the rehearsal & dinner 2 days before, and I told my parents that everyone I know who’s gotten married or had a sibling get married, etc.. recently has always had theirs on Friday for a Saturday wedding. My mom then asked if all of them were Catholic. I wouldn’t think the religion would play a part on when you scheduled your rehearsal, but none of my Catholic friends have gotten married, nor has anyone in my family gotten married recently, so I could be wrong.
My parents also just pointed out to me that the reason we’re having our ceremony at noon is because someone already reserved the 2pm time for another wedding, so we can’t both be having our rehearsals on the same night.. dilemma.
What are all the other Catholic bees who are getting married in the Catholic Church on a Saturday doing for the rehearsal dinner? Friday night? And has anyone been in the situation before where there were 2 weddings scheduled at the church on the same day so multiple rehearsals had to take place?
I’m probably stressing about nothing, but my parents as of late seem to enjoy asking me a million questions about the wedding, that I don’t know the answer to yet, and seem to be making big deals out of the little details.. I know my parents have good intentions, but I’m getting a bit overwhelmed with the 20 questions every 2 hours throughout the day about wedding stuff!
Post # 3
We are having ours on Thursday, my 2 brothers and sister did the same thing so they could rest the day before. It is not uncommon, at least in my experience as a Catholic and a participant in Catholic ceremonies.
We are waiting to see each other after the rehersal until I walk down the aisle, we both think its more romantic 🙂
When it comes to the questions, I know it can be frustrating, but try to relax, at least they are involved 🙂 that is a wonderful thing. Just tell them “I haven’t figured that out yet”.
Post # 4
After spending time on this board, I was also under the impression that a rehearsal dinner ‘should’ be on the Friday. However my parents were shocked by that idea, and said their rehearsal was on Wednesday. Our priest also suggested Thursday. So I guess we are doing Thursday!
Post # 5
Hm, interesting, thanks for the feedback ladies! This is the first I’ve heard of doing the rehearsal more than a day before.. my parents were shocked as well when I said I thought we were doing it on Friday. Guess I’m out of the loop.. seriously had NEVER heard of doing it on a Thursday. Good to know!
We were just planning on doing our bachelor/bachelorette parties on Thursday night, since all of our out of town college friends would probably be able to make it without having to come a full week beforehand, which is another reason I thought we’d be doing the rehearsal dinner on Friday. I guess I probably just need to call my priest & ask him when it’s typically done & what times & ask about the double rehearsal with 2 different weddings going on!
Thanks again for your perspective, though, ladies. I guess it’s not as uncommon as I thought! 🙂
Post # 6
Mine is the night before (Friday night rehearsal, Saturday morning wedding). I’ve heard more cases of doing the rehearsal the day OF, not two days ahead.
Post # 7
This isn’t really a Catholic issue (there’s no Catholic rule or requirement), it’s a church specific issue when they have their rehearsals and it varies (just like any protestant church).
If there are two Saturday weedings, there will probably be two Friday rehearsals (one at 5pm and one at 6pm, for example).
Post # 8
I’m with you, never heard of a Thursday rehersal, even with Catholic weddings. I would suggest talking to your priest as he may want to do both rehersals n one day or seperate them. We had a Catholic wedding with a Friday rehersal and rehersal dinner. We did a lot of last minute things Friday morning and got to the rehersal early to decorate the church for the next day (something you can’t do on Thursday).
Post # 9
I’ve never heard of thursday rehearsals. We had ours Friday night. We also had a lot of family from out of town, so we wanted to make sure they got dinner after traveling all day…
ETA: 4 of my bridesmaids didn’t get in until Friday either… so there really was no way to do it Thursday..
Post # 10
i think it depends on the church – we can only do ours on friday 🙁
my FSIL (also catholic wedding) had hers on a thursday and it was sooo much more convenient. plus we got to hang out with family and have a good time and not worry about having to get home to finish last minute projects and getting up and running around the day of the wedding. i even asked our chruch about thursdays and they said no.
Post # 11
Our Mass is at 5:30 on Saturday and our rehearsal is at 6:00 on Friday night. In our area, Friday is standard unless there is another wedding at the church on that Friday night. Then they bump the Saturday wedding’s rehearsal to Thurs and Friday’s to Weds.
Post # 12
I would love to have ours Thursday night. It wouldn’t seem as rushed. But we are having our ceremony at a public, popular site so we have no choice but to have it Friday night. I don’t have a choice! I just hope no one in our bridal party drinks too much to have a hangover the next day!
Post # 13
I think it just depends on the venue and when people are available, 1-3 days ahead is the standard and most people seem to do one of these depending on what suits their circumstances best.
Personally I think having the night before the wedding ‘free’ to do whatever or just relax sounds great, I’d have my rehersal on the Thursday (if I was having one).
Post # 14
Getting married tomorrow (Fri) and we had our rehearsal last night (Wed). I liked the idea of a fun night and then relaxing the night before the wedding.
Post # 15
Mine will be Friday, mainly because most of my bridal party has to travel and our priest didn’t seem to care.
Post # 16
@toile234: At larger churches, the priest might not even show up for the rehearsal. There’s usually a wedding guild lady that walks you through the ceremony, where to stand, where to sit, how to use the lecturn, etc.