Post # 1
Just wondering here..My fiance & I were born and raised Catholic, however, we don’t attend church regularly. It’s important for us and our families that we are married in a catholic church – so the church is booked, the deacon is picked out and the precana classes are scheduled. The church is out of both our parishes and the deacon told me we’d need permission from our current parishes to marry outside of them. Has anyone ever been denied the request? When I do go to church I normally go to my fiance’s parish and not my own so they probably have no idea who I am! I’m from New Orleans so it’s pretty normal for people to marry outside their parish but I hope I’m not denied! Anyone have any experience with this?
Post # 3
I’ve never heard of anyone getting denied. FI and I are registering at church x right near our venue and doing pre-cana there. It’ll be where we’ll raise our children. We are getting married at university chapel y in a different diocese (literally church x and y are both 1.5 miles from my house). Church y needs the letter of good standing from x and all that they are checking is if we attend mass.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
We got married at a church that neither of us practices at. Sure, churches will tend to give preference to parishioners, but if you’re getting in early & prepared to pay the voluntary fees, most wouldn’t turn you away? (I imagine!)
Post # 5
They won’t turn you away! To be honest, they want the money.
Post # 6
I am in this same situation, we are living in Chicago, but are getting married in New York and need permission to be married outside of the parish.
I asked my priest in Chicago and in New York this same question.
The priest in New York said it won’t be an issue at all, and the priest in Chicago said he said he only heard of someone being turned away once, and it was outside of the country (Italy). He said they never turn you away in the United States.
Also – we are brand new to our parish, and it is huge, so they didn’t know us personally either. They just asked if we were officially registered (which we were able to do online) and that was enough for them!
Post # 7
Thanks! We asked both of our parishes and they wrote us a letter no questions asked! It was easier than I thought it would be!!