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    lc2be    June 20, 2009   NH/MA

    We're getting married in a Catholic Church in 2 weeks. When we started planning and met with the coordinator there she told us the fee. I think we have to pay this because we're not members of this particular church. Last weekend when we met with the priest he mentioned a gift to the church. Do we give a gift on top of the fee? Or are they one in the same? If we give an additional gift, what is an adequate amount? We're just having a ceremony, no mass. 

     
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    Chela429    3/29/09   Long Island, NY

    Each church has it's own rules.  You are best off contacting them directly and clarifying it.  My church has a "donation" of $500 which includes the musicians and the cantor.  If there were any flowers for the altar those must remain too as a "donation" plus it recommended that a "tip" be given to all the participants.  In my case that was the Priest ($150), altar girl ($20), Cantor ($20), the pianist ($25).  Please note, the tip amounts were not required, it's what I happened to give.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    We had a fee as well ($250 because we are parishoners) and "gifted" the officiant $200 after the wedding.  I second chela about asking specifically for your church.  Our parish secretary told us how much people usually give, and we went form there.  Good luck!

     
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    fancygirl       NYC

    Wow - I am a parishioner at the church I'm getting married and when all is said and done, our fee will be over $700!  I believe it's all counted as a donation and no separate one is expected. 

     
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    irmango      

    our church "fee" was $300 since we were parishioners. this fee covered the marriage prep time (FOCCUS test, etc.), the coordinator's time, and other church logistics. the musicians had a different fee of $200 each. our church coordinator then told us a couple of weeks beforehand that it was the norm to "tip" the altar servers $15 each. on our wedding day, we "tipped" our priest $100. this wasn't necessary, but we chose to do so. it also ends up as a church donation, not something our priest would keep.

     
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    hbowar    May 15th, 2009   San Jose, CA & MN

    We got married in the church my parents belong to and the church secretary said that they "donations" vary, which was not helpful at all, but ask her as I'm sure she's the one that would know the most. 

    We had a different priest come to officiate...he's a different church in the diocese now, so we gave $200 to him and $200 to the church.  Not sure if that's normal, but that's what we did!

     

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