Post # 1
Fiance and I are having a destination wedding in Mexico. We are both Catholic [him Irish Catholic, me Italian Catholic]. We have all of our sacraments and intend to raise our children Catholic.
We are looking at three resorts, but only one of the three offers a Catholic service. The other two only have symbolic ceremonies. I am struggling to get off the possibility that it may not be a Catholic ceremony, though we are both beach bums and toes in the sand while we take our vows is super appealing to.
I am leaning toward the resort with the chapel because it’s fabulous in glass all around out over the sea. I love it.
I guess my question is, if we don’t choose that resort and we happen to choose another non-denomonational service, can we still participate in pre-cana at our church? Do you have to get married Catholic to do pre-cana? Premarital counseling is very important to me.
Post # 3
@MrsKevyChevy: You might want to consider having a very small wedding ceremony in your church (just the two of you + the priesT) before going to Mexico for the destination wedding. This will allow you to be validly married in the Catholic Church and to have still have a destination “vow renewal”. This also takes care of the legal issues of transferring a Mexican wedding license to the US.
If you do not get married in a Catholic ceremony, you will separate yourself from the sacraments and will not be eligible to receive communion in the future.
Post # 4
@CatholicBee: You will need 2 witnesses too if you go that route.
Post # 5
You could also consider having your catholic wedding ceremony in a church off resort then return to the resort for the reception.
Post # 6
You can definitely do pre-cana even if you are not getting married at your local parish! We had a semi-destination wedding in Indiana, and did our pre-cana at my husband’s then-home parish in Texas. To be honest, you are going to have a difficult time finding a Catholic wedding at a resort, because they almost always have to be performed in a church. You could look into local parishes near a resort in Mexico, and do the ceremony there and the reception at the resort, but I think that would be very difficult to arrange unless you are fluent. Good luck!
Post # 7
I was just married at the Gran Caribe Real in Cancun and it has a beautiful Catholic Chapel and a Catholic preist.
Post # 8
@west.coast.blonde: Wow, I just Googled it and that is a beautiful chapel!
Does anyone else know of any outdoor-ish places to have a Catholic ceremony? I know it’s pretty unusual, but my bf (waiting on that ring, lol) is Catholic and it’s important to him and his family that we marry in the church, but I’ve always envisioned being outside. Something like this is the best of both worlds!
Post # 9
@LibrarianBride: This is a tricky one. Catholic weddings are indoors. There is a few reasons for this 1) it’s a sacrament, so it makes sense to have it in the house of God. 2) it’s a community event. The church represents the “home” of a parish, and so having a wedding at the church is a way to invite the community. (don’t worry – the whole community doesn’t usually show up!) It’s a symbolic way of saying this is the foundation for our marriage – God and this community.
It does suck if you are marrying into the church though and have always wanted to get married outside. Some brides have thrown out ideas for compromises – one girl mentioned that she and her husband were exchanging ‘personal vows’ after the wedding outside. We had our reception outside. Or you could keep looking for churches like the one you mentioned! A lot have beautiful grounds or otherwise incorporate the beauty of the outdoors.
On the bright side though, you don’t have to worry about rain!
Post # 10
@jedeve: Yeah, when we first talked about getting married and the fact he wants a catholic ceremony I did some research to learn why it had to be in a church. BF offered to do the 2 ceremony thing, with the church wedding and then personal vows somewhere outside, so that is an option. I think it would be nice to have 1 ceremony that represents both of us though (I’m not religious, but definitely feel more of a connection with a higher power outdoors than I do in any church I’ve visited), so if I could find an outdoor chapel it would be ideal. Very true about the rain though!
Post # 11
I know the glass Catholic chapel that you are talking about and you should def do that! It’s stunning and you’ll get the Catholic ceremony you want, without giving up the beautiful views of the sea and beach that alot of people go to mexico for, with destination weddings. It was something I really wanted when we first talked about getting married- the exact hotel and chapel- but FI wouldn’t do a destination wedding.
It’ll be beautiful AND Catholic- which solves all of your problems!
Post # 12
I know you’re looking for something in Mexico, but I thought I’d add (in case someone else finds this thread looking for a way to have an outdoor Catholic ceremony) that there’s a beautiful wooded place in Portland called the Grotto– it’s the National Sanctuary of Our Sorrowful Mother– you can have outdoor Catholic ceremonies there. Totally a-ok with the archdiocese of Portland, etc. There may be other churches or outdoor sanctuaries like that here in the US if you look enough.