Post # 1
Has anyone had a catholic destination wedding, been to one, or know anyone who has had one?? My FI and I got engaged in Nov and we are planning a destination wedding, but since I’m catholic and he’s not, we have to get marry in the catholic church. Can give us some pointers??
Thanks so much!!!!!
Post # 3
I’m not big on destination weddings, but my guess would be to pick your location and look up Catholic churches in the area. A Catholic wedding does need to take place in a Catholic church. You’ll probably want to talk to the pastor of that church and see what you will need to do.
Post # 4
We are both Catholic, we did have a destination wedding but not a Catholic DW. I’m not sure how much help I can be but I can share what we learned. We both wanted a Catholic ceremony but the church where wanted to have the ceremony was 1. Very expensive, they were asking for 4,000 as a donation because we were not part of the parish 2. They did not provide an officiant or priest 3. Once we had picked an officiant or priest they had to approve them 4. Since we were not part of the parish they would not let us use a priest or refer a priest who was part of their sister churches for our ceremony 5. I believe, but do not recall, they could not guarantee a private ceremony. So with that information all I can say is do your research. If you can have it a church where a family member is part of the parish they may not ask you a very large donation. I believe the church we wanted to use the donation was 1,500 if a family member was part of the parish. Also we found all this information on the church’s website. If you have a church in mind, see if they have website and check out the information. Good luck and Congrats!
Post # 5
I am having a DW with the ceremony in a Catholic church. They do require a $2,000 donation, and we are bringing our own priest (he’s a good friend of my dad’s and would be invited anyway).
The rules also depend on the diocese where you are getting married. You will need to work with your priest at your home parish to help you… Our wedding is in Orlando, so our local priest has to complete all the paperwork and submit the prenuptial investigation etc, to the our local diocese, who then sends it to Orlando.
Luckily the church where we are getting married has a wedding guide for out of towners like me that make it very clear what is required.
Good luck! Let me know if I can help you with any other questions.
Post # 6
@hhk331: Im having a destination wedding in a Catholic church, and like you…Im not catholic but my fiance is (I was baptised in the Church of England) so we’re having a ‘mixed marriage’ – Christian + Catholic.
We needed to go to the pre-marriage talks which took a weekend. Im living in mexico but had to fly back to England to go to the Catholic church in my parish in my hometown and get a affidavit saying that I had never been married before. Then, I had to take it to a solicitor to get it notarised. This may be specific to England i dont know (the solicitor part i mean). I also needed new copies of my baptism certificate and birth certificate
My fi handled all his papers in Mexico (we live in mexico and are getting married in a different part), but it involved getting permission from the bishop to marry a non catholic, as well as a letter (i think from the local church) allowing the marriage to take place in a different parish. An announcement of the wedding was posted in his parish church in his hometown for 3 weeks to allow time for objections. Also, he had to sign a paper saying he would do everything in his power to raise any children in the Catholic church, and i had to sign one saying i was aware that he had made that promise.
We needed 4 witnesses, who are supposed to have known us since before we were 18 (ie not new friends) but since ive only been living in Mexico for 2 years they waived that part for me and allowed me to use witnesses that have known me since i arived
First you need to find the church where you want to get married. If its in a non english speaking country, you need to find a bilingual priest which can be tricky.Unlike in the US/UK…in some countries like mexico, the religious ceremony is not legally valid. The Catholic ceremony is considered the most important culturally and the ‘real’ wedding BUT you still need to go to a judge if you want to legally be married.
cost – our chapel isnt used for weekly mass, but cost 1700 dollars. the priest, who we contacted seperately) is charging us around 200 dollars. i believe there are less expensive places in cancun/riviera maya but we fell in love with the place 🙂
There are some lovely chapels/churches in Mexico. of course, Catholic weddings can’t be outside… but there are some thatched roof open air chapels next to the beach, or ones that are made out of glass ( so transparent) that are stunning
Any questions PM me, i hope i explained it well!
Post # 7
I’m having a DW in Cancun with a full Catholic ceremony. There is a chapel on site at the resort and it’s gorgeous! PM me if you have any questions/want more specifics. The Catholic ceremony is why we chose the specific resort in the first place and I absolutely can’t wait to see the chapel in person 🙂
Post # 8
@houstonwhodat: which priest are you having? and are you discussing specifics with your home priest or your DW priest?
Post # 9
@newname_99: The resort has a priest they use, I presume from a local parish. We are doing Pre CANA at home here in Texas and the paperwork will be sent to Mexico. We actually are being prepared by a church employee who is not a priest. We will work with the priest in Mexico though as far as selections for our mass – but we are just getting to that point so I’m not sure how it will work specifically.
Post # 10
@houstonwhodat: yeah we’ve done pre-cana here in monterrey. thing is we have some questions about whether to have a full mass and guidance generally…and our home priest refers us to the cancun one and vice versa
we chose a bilingual priest and i wondered if he was the same one!!
Post # 11
thanks so much for all the advice, everyone!!! It was really helpful! My FI and I are still looking into one of the Carribeans as our destination place. We talked to my priest and he is willing to help us with this process, but I didn’t even think about the language issue (that completely slipped my mind!!). We are planning on visiting St. lucia this spring to explore and get a better feel of what we have to work with….any place in st. Lucia that you guys would suggest???
Thanks so much!!! 🙂
Post # 12
Is it that you want to be married in a church or that you want the church to recognize your marriage. If it’s about recognition, it may be much easier than you think. If you talk to your priest, he may agree to do a validation ceremony after you have the civil ceremony at the destination. You still do all of the pre-Cana in advance. The validation ceremony is identical to the regular church ceremony. Whatever you decide, I would recommend starting pre-Cana ASAP and keeping your priest involved. It is much easier to get the church’s permission as you go than it is to ask for approval once it is done. This will also cut back greatly with costs and paperwork.
Post # 13
As a rule, the Catholic Church requires that you marry in a Catholic Church (vs. on a beach or a hilltop). As long as you go through the requirements of the Church, you can get married in a Catholic Church in a place other than where you live.
Post # 13
@houstonwhodat – I am so interested to hear what venue you used and how it went. I am trying to plan a catholic destination wedding right now, and I am getting such conflicting information, and finding there aren’t many resorts that offer this. Any help would be greatly appreciated!!
Post # 14
There are many resorts with catholic chapels, the onsite wedding coordinator can help you figure out all the details. https://destify.com/destination-wedding-venues/ for your destination wedding.
Grand Palladium Riviera Maya
Many Cancun resorts have access to Our Lady of Guadalupe Glass Chapel
Post # 15
You an also ask your priest about requesting/obtaining a special dispensation from the Archdiocese or Vatican or whichever governing body so that you can marry at a venue that is not a church while having your marriage still be recognized by the church. That’s what my mom did because we’re catholic but my dad was raised Jehova.
My dad’s family refused to step foot inside a catholic church, which is like the adult religious cult way of throwing a temper tantrum, I feel.