Post # 1
My fiance and I are both practicing Catholics, and getting married inside of Mass is a non-negotiable for us. We don’t really want a huge wedding, though, and are planning on eloping. We live in LA now, but met in NYC, and would love to get married there. Has anyone had luck arranging a tiny wedding mass in a Manhattan parish without being a parishioner? We would fulfill the same marriage prep requirements. Alternately we would just get married during a daily Mass at our local parish and head to NYC for the weekend, but it would really be meaningful to do it in NYC.<br /><br />Typically we’d prefer to get married within our own community, but my family isn’t Catholic and would protest a Catholic wedding, there have been very close immediate family deaths back to back this year, and it would be too difficult for both of us to be surrounded by friends — even wonderful, good friends! — when we’re still grieving the loss of family members we always imagined would be with us.
Post # 2
giannathomas: have you contacted the parish you attended when you lived in NYC?
Or asked your your local parish to refer you to someone in NYC?
Post # 3
I think you may have difficulty finding a parish to do it in NYC if you just go in cold, but as the PP said, your odds are a lot better if your existing parish has connections and can refer you, or if you have previously attended one there. However even if one parish won’t do it, they might be able to refer you to one who will. I would make it a priority to find one as soon as possible, though, since popular churches will book up very quickly due to the large population there. You may also have to visit and/or take pre-Cana classes with the priest there beforehand, so make sure you budget both time and travel money for that possibility.
This thread may be useful to you:
Post # 4
Thanks for the links and advice! FI was formerly a seminarian so he’s going to contact some of his priest friends and try and work something out.