I am having a jewish wedding in a university chapel. I want my friend's little girl to be my flower girl. They follow the teachings of Vatican I does anyone know if she is prohibited? There is some passage in the bible about not being able to dance at both weddings....any help would be appreciated! Thanks
I've never known any Catholics who have had a problem with that. As far as I know, there is no official doctrine from the church prohibiting Catholics from going to, or participating, in weddings of other faiths.
I'm not really an expert, but my in-laws are some of the strictest Catholics I've ever known and they don't have any problem with that.
Being raised a Catholic myself, I have attend weddings of different faiths and it has never been a problem. I know that if you have a Catholic wedding mass the only poeple who can take the holy communion are Catholics. Non-Catholics may approach the altar for a blessing or remain in their seats. As for the dancing thing - I believe there are some branches of the Baptist Church and possibly the Mormans that do not believe in dancing (and even smoking, drinking and gambling.)
Wait - did you mean they follow Vatican II, which is pretty usual, or do you mean that they follow pre-Vatican II teachings? Pre Vatican II people still say Mass in Latin and are different in many ways than your average Catholic.
I'm also not sure what you mean about a passage in the Bible saying you can't dance at "both" weddings. What do you mean by "both"?
The only reason a Catholic might not want to be in another person's wedding is if that person claims to be Catholic but is not following the church by having a wedding that is outside of the faith. There's no problem with having Jewish friends and participating in their Jewish wedding. If you have a breaking bread or wine ceremony (similar to Communion, I don't know what it is called in the Jewish tradition, but I've been to a Synagogue where it was done before), Catholics will not be able to partake in that, but that's about it.
You may want to ask the parents directly. I do understand how a very strict Catholic, for lack of a better way of describing the practices, might have concerns.
We view marriage as a sacrament. My good friend and Catholic priest was recently unable to attend the wedding of his neice because it was outside of "the Church". If he attended, there's a basic assumption that he "approved" of this marriage which was not holding to the sacramental description.
A strict observer of the Catholic faith might assume the same position. But if that were the case, the parents shouldn't attend the wedding either.
It all has to do with it being a sacrament and them acknowledging the union. This is more tricky if one of you is Catholic.
Hope this helps....I doubt this is the case but I thought I'd weigh in.
I am having a jewish wedding in a university chapel. I want my friend's little girl to be my flower girl. They follow the teachings of Vatican I does anyone know if she is prohibited? There is some passage in the bible about not being able to dance at both weddings....any help would be appreciated! Thanks
posted by ju1244 254 posts 5 months agoI've never known any Catholics who have had a problem with that. As far as I know, there is no official doctrine from the church prohibiting Catholics from going to, or participating, in weddings of other faiths.
I'm not really an expert, but my in-laws are some of the strictest Catholics I've ever known and they don't have any problem with that.
posted by radish 156 posts 5 months agoI also have never heard of that being prohibited. I also think dancing is fine as well. Never heard that it wasn't.
posted by Candi1024 304 posts 5 months agoBeing raised a Catholic myself, I have attend weddings of different faiths and it has never been a problem. I know that if you have a Catholic wedding mass the only poeple who can take the holy communion are Catholics. Non-Catholics may approach the altar for a blessing or remain in their seats. As for the dancing thing - I believe there are some branches of the Baptist Church and possibly the Mormans that do not believe in dancing (and even smoking, drinking and gambling.)
posted by rofvbb07 18 posts 5 months agoWait - did you mean they follow Vatican II, which is pretty usual, or do you mean that they follow pre-Vatican II teachings? Pre Vatican II people still say Mass in Latin and are different in many ways than your average Catholic.
I'm also not sure what you mean about a passage in the Bible saying you can't dance at "both" weddings. What do you mean by "both"?
posted by pgar 14 posts 5 months agoI'm not Catholic, but will be standing as the Maid of Honor in a Catholic wedding with no issue.
posted by fromms2mrs 55 posts 5 months agoThe only reason a Catholic might not want to be in another person's wedding is if that person claims to be Catholic but is not following the church by having a wedding that is outside of the faith. There's no problem with having Jewish friends and participating in their Jewish wedding. If you have a breaking bread or wine ceremony (similar to Communion, I don't know what it is called in the Jewish tradition, but I've been to a Synagogue where it was done before), Catholics will not be able to partake in that, but that's about it.
posted by ErinSea 129 posts 4 months agoYou may want to ask the parents directly.
I do understand how a very strict Catholic, for lack of a better way of describing the practices, might have concerns.
We view marriage as a sacrament. My good friend and Catholic priest was recently unable to attend the wedding of his neice because it was outside of "the Church". If he attended, there's a basic assumption that he "approved" of this marriage which was not holding to the sacramental description.
A strict observer of the Catholic faith might assume the same position. But if that were the case, the parents shouldn't attend the wedding either.
It all has to do with it being a sacrament and them acknowledging the union. This is more tricky if one of you is Catholic.
Hope this helps....I doubt this is the case but I thought I'd weigh in.
Good luck!
posted by buggsrule 1 posts 4 months agoNah, Catholics can attend and participate in your wedding.
I know the passage of the Bible you are speaking about, but Catholics mostly follow the New Testement so this won't be a problem for your wedding.
posted by QueenoftheClick 35 posts 4 months ago