Catholic Marrying non-Catholic Christian

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FoxyBride14:  we aren’t having a full Mass. His family is Pentecostal, and we felt like they would feel very uncomfortable sitting through a Mass. I am looking forward to celebrating Mass with my husband on the Sunday after our wedding 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you should get a second opinion. If he is BAPTIZED catholic, then he IS considered catholic by th Catholic Church- (this is why people who are simply baptized catholic but no longer consider themselves catholic are not even considered validly married according to the church if they get married outside the Catholic Church! Baptism in the Catholic Church is a REALLY big deal, whether the person thinks it is or not!)

if it was someone other than a priest who told you that you will need a dispensation bc he is “not catholic,” I’m 99% sure that is not true, and you should talk to someone who is more knowledgeable. (Like a priest. And, even if it was a priest, I still think you need a second opinion, since I really don’t think that is accurate information.)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@red_rose:  Traditionally the requirement is that both parties be confirmed in the Catholic church before marriage. More liberal parishes may not require this, but it’s possible that more conservative parishes will.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@FoxyBride14:  Well, I’m not 100% sure what the score is, because our situation was different, and I was never baptised Catholic (I am a non-Catholic Christian). DH is a practising Catholic.

If your FI is being considered a non-Catholic for this purpose, despite his baptism, then you will need two dispensations. The first is for a Catholic marrying a non-Catholic, which they call “disparity of cult” dispensation. The second is for a mass during a wedding in which there is a disparity of cult, where it is generally recommended that you do not have a mass (because the non-Catholic party would generally be excluded from taking such a mass), but you may request one if you wish. In some places, I’ve been told that merely having a mass at a “disparity of cult” wedding does not require a separate dispensation, but a dispensation must be requested for the non-Catholic partner to take mass at such a wedding (they would otherwise be excluded). So I’m not sure exactly what the score is here.

Now, we did not have a mass, but we did receive a “disparity of cult” dispensation. It was quite quick once all of our paperwork was in order. If you have all the bits and bobs, you can send it off and you should have a reply within about 2 weeks or so. That was our experience, anyway!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My parents did this. My mom is Catholic and my dad is Lutheran. It wasn’t complicated – they basically just had to promise that they would raise their kids as Catholic and then they were good to go. Granted, this was 30+ years ago, but I know others who have done it since and it didn’t seem like they had any real issues. Talk to your priest.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@FoxyBride14:  Ask me anything! It’s still fresh in my mind, and I like to be helpful.

They won’t refuse to marry you… technically they can’t refuse you a sacrament anyway, but it would be very odd that they would refuse, in any case. It’s a procedural thing, really.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@FoxyBride14:  No probs. I had a whole bunch of drama arranging the church-based side of my wedding, but it was more complicated than your scenario. I had a bunch of hardcore atheist relatives to deal with, plus my family are mostly non-conformists, like me, and there’s bound to be misunderstanding when you have two families who come from very different backgrounds, to be honest.

Worked out OK in the end though!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you need to clarify this with your priest. It sounds like you are getting some misinformation. I don’t believe you need a dispensation to marry a baptised Christian, whether the baptism is Catholic or another denomination (as long as it follows proper form).

The dispensation is needed to marry an unbaptized person.

Your fiance is Catholic if he was baptized in the Catholic church.  He is not a “non-denominational” Christian. He is Catholic.

Confirmation is technically not required for  Catholics to marry, but it may be a sticking point for some priests/churches.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FoxyBride14:  I’m Catholic and FI is baptized non-Catholic Christian – we didn’t have to do anything but meet with our priest twice – once to get “penciled in” and for him to see our baptismal certificates and ask us a bunch of questions, and then we did pre-Cana, and met with him again to set the date in stone. 

Also, we are having full Mass, even though FI is not Catholic.  The priest was very clear that it was allowed, and that it’s up to the couple depending on how they feel their families would feel (ie. if the non-Catholic side would be very uncomfortable).  We decided to have Mass.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Rachel631:  you seem very knowledgable about this topic! I’m curious, if you don’t mind me asking, we’re you and your FI living together before you were married? If you do mind this question just ignore my post and I will understand! I’m asking because my FI and I are in a similar situation and are moving in together in a week. I’m nervous the priest won’t marry us because of this? Any thoughts?

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