Post # 1
FI and I are getting married in December and we are having a full catholic mass, we are both catholic. I have honestly never been to a catholic wedding so I’m not very sure what is expected of me as the Bride? Do any of you have any references or videos which could clue me in? Of course we’ll be having a rehersal the day before, but I’d like to be more prepared 🙂
I’m specifically not sure about if me and my groom are standing at the alter the whole time, do we have a place to sit/kneel? Does our wedding party remain at the alter the entire time, do they have a place to sit/kneel?
Post # 2
Have you gotten a copy of Together For Life yet? That’s the booklet that your priest will give you that will help you plan the ceremony. Every church seems to do things a little bit differently, but in general, you and your groom will probably be seated on the altar, along with your maid of honor and best man, while the rest of the attendants sit in the first pew. You and your groom will stand for the vows and exchange of rings, then will go back to your seats on the altar for the rest of the Mass.
For ours, the groom, best man and priest all entered before the music started and stood at the altar. Then for the processional, the other two groomsmen escorted our mothers to their seats in the second pew, then they went to stand in the first pew. The bridesmaids went next – when they got to the altar, my “man of honor” stood next to the priest, and the other two bridesmaids stood in the first pew. Then my dad and I walked down the aisle, I stood next to my husband in front of the priest and my dad took his seat in the second pew. We stood for the opening remarks and then went up to the altar to take our seats.
Post # 3
Thank you, that is very helpful information! Yes, we were given the Together for Life booklet but I was still really unsure of the whole standing/sitting situation. Thank!
Post # 4
As PP said, your priest will give you a copy of Together for Life book which will help you plan your ceremony (since Catholic weddings are very specific as far as what you can and cannot do).
As far as where every stands and sits, that’s going to vary slighty from church to church. In my church, the bride and groom sat separately and to the side of the altar (where no one else was) while the bridal party sat in the first row of pews (MOH and BM included). When it came time to say our vows, we went up to the altar and were joined by the MOH and BM – the rest of the BP remaiend where they were. Once we were done, we went back to our private seats and the MOH and BM rejoined the rest of the bridal party. This is also how I’ve seen it done at 2 other Catholic weddings in two other churches. So really it will depend on they layout/setup of your church and the priest’s preference.
Post # 5
For my ceremony the MOH Bride Groom and BM were all at the altar, the rest of the bridal party sat in the first pew, we had our readers off sitting in pews to the side so they could easily get up and do their reading. We would always be kneeling at the altar or standing.. we never sat. Heres a couple of pictures from my ceremony that can give you an idea of what it may look like:
Post # 6
polkadotpanda: Thank you this was very helpful!
Post # 7
Okay, this may be a weird question. I recently became Catholic and my FI and his family are devote Catholics and we will ba having a full mass at our wedding next April. We’ve never been to a Catholic wedding before but after reading the booklet that gives you the timeline of the mass/wedding I noticed there wasn’t a spot that said, you may now kiss your bride.. do they not do that? Is there no kissing of the bride? It may be silly but that is always what I pictured at my wedding growing up!
Post # 8
Wilson2Bee: The priest usually does this at the very end of the mass. Soon after he will usually congratulate the couple and introduce them as husband and wife for the first time. That’s how I’ve seen it done…