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At my middle daughters wedding The mother of the Bride and the parents of the Groom were seated just prior to the service beginning. then the procession began with the Groom entering first with the priest followed by, the server, the flower girl, the reader, the matron of honor with the best man then the bridesmaids with groomsmen and then the Bride and her father. The procession began at the back of the church, I was supprised how nice this was for the groom to be escorted into the wedding by the priest.
Can't vote yet, as we have not discussed this with our priest. Thanks for bringing it up.
My fiance and I will be walking down the aisle together - we're doing option B.
My FI and I really want to do option B- going down the aisle together. Personally, I like the symbolism that, as you put it, we are equal and complementary partners heading into this new stage together.
I really don't like the symbolism that would be implied by my dad walking me down the aisle (plus, my parents are divorced, so I'd have to choose between dads!). I understand that many people don't see it this way at all, and that for them it is a beautiful show of love and support to have their dad walk them down the aisle. I think that's great! But for us, the idea of starting together is so lovely that we'll likely not use this tradition (though I'm not sure how old it even is, and I don't think it is a Catholic tradition at all).
We're going to do a modified B. We do not have bridesmaids/maid of honor/groomsmen/best man and most likely our parents will already be seated.
Even before we got engaged we were discussing this (as the topic of marriage was always welcome in conversation) and we chose this because of exactly what the OP stated -- we are the ministers of the sacrament -- we are going together before the Lord -- together.
So nice to see others that think the same way!
We're doing it the traditional bride-with-father way, but only because my dad has been bragging to everyone that he gets to do that :). I really wanted to walk down together, but FI also said that he was looking forward to watching me walk up. I was outvoted!
Thats interesting - I don't recall seeing anything like that in our marriage prep book. I do like the sentiment and agree its progressive. However, I've decided to go the traditional route simply because (even though I'm a bit of a feminist) I really like the tradition of having my father give me away. I've always imagined my wedding that way, so that's how I'm doing it. It'll go like this:
Altar server, reader, priest, grandparents, FI's parents, FI/my mom, bridesmaids/groomsmen, maid of honor/best man, bride/father.
(My fiance is escorting my mother down the aisle because with the traditional setup, she didn't have someone to walk down with, so we thought this was the best way to solve that.)
My parents were married in 1981 in a Catholic mass and they walked down the aisle together. They definitely aren't the progressive type, so I'm not sure how the idea came up (whether it was theirs or the church's).
I'm trying to actually find pictures out there (namely to show my photographer what to expect) of a bride and groom walking down the aisle together with the priest and altar servers, etc. processing down together. For those getting married/did get married and chose "option B" do you have any photos?
For those interested, one of the workbooks out there is "Together for Life" (you can find it on Amazon for less than $5 -- there are two versions, one if you're having a full Catholic Nuptial Mass and the other is if you're not having a Mass/doing just vows) and offers the following entrance processions for a Catholic wedding:
(1) both bride and groom accompanied by parents, preceded by bridesmaids, groomsmen, and presiding clergy
(2) Both bride and groom accompanied by parents, preceded by bridesmaids and groomsmen
(3) Bride accompanied by parents preceded by bridesmaids and groomsmen
(4) Bride accompanied by father preceded by bridesmaids and groomsmen
(5) Other: ______
I'd be interested in finding out what other books/resources other parishes/dioceses use (my parish uses this book, while I know others that create their own workbooks). I find the book very helpful.
My dad is walking me down the aisle and I can't imagine doing otherwise -- not because I am traditional, but because I KNOW he has looked forward to this moment, and I'm not going to take that away from him.
In Brazil (where pretty much most people are Catholic, and where my wedding will be held), the groom walks in with his mother, the mother of the bride walks in with the father of the groom, and then the bride walks in with her father.
Miss Splash - someone gave me "When Love is Found" by Jeanne Cotter and David Haas which I found helpful. It's similar to Together for Life but more informative.
CCSR - I like that idea. I have been planning on:
Deacon and Priest, flower girl/ring bearer, BMs escorted by GMs, Fiance with his parents, and then me with mine. But I don't know if our aisle is wide enough to walk with 3 abreast! If not, maybe I'll use yours. I like the idea of all of our parents being involved.
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In our meeting with the priest and in our Celebrating Marriage workbook, it discusses how the Rite of Catholic Marriage does not describe a form of the procession where the bride enters with her father and meets the groom at the altar. It talks about how as the two of us are the ministers for the sacrament of marriage, we are both included in the procession and that this reflects the Church's understanding that the bride and groom are equal and complementary partners in marriage, as well as that there is not a reason to limit parental involvement in the processional to the bride's father. It talks about how when the "tradition" of the bride escorted by the father to the groom was enacted, it was because it was a transfer of the bride between two men and most modern women--as well as the Church--would not see their marriage in this way.
I found this very progressive. It shows three processions:
A: altar server, reader, priest, usher and bridesmaid, best man and maid/matron of honor, groom with parents, bride with parents
B: altar server, reader, priest, usher and bridesmaid, best man and maid/matron of honor, goom's parents, bride's parents, bride and groom
C: altar server, reader, priest, usher and bridesmaid, best man and maid/matron of honor, groom's parents, groom, bride's parents, bride
I really like B but my fiance is very traditional and doesn't want to do this so I'm leaning toward A. Are any of you doing one of these three approaches? How did people react when you told them?
My mom said that why would our Catholic priest back home and other priest friends violate the Rite of Marriage? Why would they have the bride given away if it was against Catholic teachings?
What are your thoughts? Catholic brides, what are you and your groom doing?