- 2 years ago
I was raised Catholic, but dont really practice it because we go to chuch maybe two times a year, and FI was raised Christian, he would always go to church he stopped going at the age of 18 when he got a job and it became hard, after that he just didnt want to go, so you could say he doesnt practice it anymore either but he is a strong believer in his faith, unlike me who I say I’m just Catholic because thats what my whole family is.
FI does not want to get married through Catholic church, and I dont care to either because I have no set priest that I grew up with. My parents were furious about this at first, saying he wasnt good for me, and that they wouldnt go to my wedding if I didnt get married this way. After a while of arguing we set to get married civil, but with FI pastor marrying us because him we know personally and it would mean so much to FI. I am completely ok with this, but I’m not too sure if him marrying us would be considered me getting married through the Christian church (which I dont mind doing either, after all we plan to raise our kids Christian).
Well today after talking to his family, his mom started telling me how we needed to start going to church on Sundays (something my parents are not ok with me doing) and that it be dumb for the pastor to marry us just civil and what not, saying that if God is not in our relationship it wont last. We picked to do the ceremony at the venue, and my parents were finally ok with his pastor marrying us because it would be civil, but now I’m not soo sure if that will be the case and if my parents would end up going after all. My parents are the ones that want me to include lazo and arras, but if its civil I dont think it would actually count. FI plans to talk to his pastor and ask him if he can do it civil but including these things, but what my parents wanted was for my to get the blessing, and one of my aunts told them that it didnt matter where it was coming from as long as I received it, that is how they agreed on the pastor deal. I know that if I tell them that I will be getting married through his church it will start a whole big deal again.
So help me out here bees, what would you do in my situation? I like FI pastor, I want someone we know to marry us so I have no problem with him, its mostly my parents making a big deal about everything (they are going to have such a fit when they find out about how we want to raise our kids). Help!