Post # 1
First off, I am not having a full Mass.
I have been thinking about (and probably will) incorporate our loved ones into our prayers of the faithful.
I’ve also been thinking about something with the unity candle for our deceased grandfathers… maybe letting our living grandmothers light a remembrance candle from their respective family unity candles, or vice versa (i.e. one of the tall tapers)?
I’m not sure about this. It may be too complicated or include too much walking for the grandmas, but it would certainly be touching. I also know that the remembrance candles (I can’t think of their actual name) are very solemn, so I don’t want to do anything too theatrical to cheapen their solemnity.
There’s always the option of having my grandmothers carry a white rose down the aisle with them and, of course, mentioning our grandfathers in the program, which I’ll likely do.
Post # 3
We are just including them in the program and our prayers to the faithful but in order to keep it not uber sad, we are simply praying “for those who died, especially the grandparents, relatives, and friends of June and Mr. June, and of all present for this wedding, that they may enjoy perfect happiness and total fulfillment in eternal life, We pray…
Post # 4
i personally put them in the programs – we had our mothers light the unity candles but i think having the grandma’s do it is a wonderful idea.i also think putting them in the prayers of the faithful is great – i made special note in ours to pray for the troops since we both have brothers in the marine corps – i also had them pray for all the expecting mothers out there, my SIL a coworker a cousin. there were a few of them so that was important to me too – so i think prayers of the failthful is the perfect place for them.
Maybe you could do something at the reception too? i had my grandparents wedding pictures on display – his and mine and our parents too! all my grandparents have passed and 1 of his has – unfortunately none of his grandparents could make the wedding so it was nice to have those pictures up for that reason too.
Post # 5
These are all wonderful ideas and things I have thought about doing! I am very family-centered, so it’s important to me to honor all those who have helped us become who we are.
Post # 6
I’m going to have deceased family members listed in my program. Also, I know some people have a bouquet on the altar and then bring it to display at the reception. I think the idea of having your grandmothers participate in the mass sounds beautiful. I’m sure what ever you choose to do will be touching. Happy planning!
Post # 7
We mentioned them during the Intentions, which you could still do even if you’re not doing a full mass.
Post # 8
Were they also Catholic? If they had a favorite saint, I like the idea of the grandmothers putting flowers by a statue of them and mentioned that in fine print in the program.
We’ll be incorporating my dad in the Mass through a small favor. Ever week at Mass, he’d leave a gold dollar in the poor box as he left church. I’ll be handing out gold dollars with a note letting them know to think of him and inviting them to join in that tradition to leave a dollar on their way out. I feel like it makes the idea of a donation favor so much more personal for the guests!
Post # 9
We are having them added to the Prayers of the Faithful specifically. To “FI’s grandparents who could not be here today” and we are adding a “wish you were here” part to the program as well.
Post # 10
@MissMaryMc: That is a beautiful idea! Thanks so much! 🙂