Post # 1
so what exactly happens durring a catholic wedding at a church with a mass. my entire family is catholic but i will be the first to get married in a church since my parents. i have never been to a catholic wedding in a church, usually my family does outdooor weddings, but i like the whole tradition idea since in my family it is untraditional. lol. i know we need to pick people to do extra tasks, but what are the tasks? is it just the readings? who usually does these tasks?
Post # 3
Are you having a full mass or just the ceremony? It’s basically a mass like you would go to on Sundays, only you get to pick the readings and you say your vows and exchange rings. Here is what to expect:
And yes, you only pick people to do the readings. It can be anybody who is meaningful enough for you so you want to give them a special role in your wedding.
Post # 4
If you PM me, I can send you a link to my blog. I just finished recapping my Catholic wedding mass. (or the link is in my profile).
If you’ve been to a mass before, it’s pretty much like that plus vows in the middle.
Post # 5
I can totally relate to you and how overwhelming a catholic mass can feel! My fiancee and future in laws are all catholic (I am not) but it is very important to them that the ceremony takes place in a church and in a full catholic mass. I am going through the RCIA process (converting) and also picking out the various music pieces and readings for the mass. The woman at the church who does music is very helpful (and patient!) and has answered all my questions! I asked her and will ask the priest if I could discretely sit in on an upcoming wedding mass being I haven’t been to one either. I do know that you will have to choose people to read two readings (old testament and new) and also people to bring the gifts to the alter for the communion. Certain music is allowed and not allowed. Talk to your priest to find out what is okay with that parish. Good luck with everything and keep us posted on how things go!
Post # 6
@autumn865: You can totally attend someone else’s wedding mass. It’s a mass, so the church does not consider it to be a private event but it’s open to anyone who wants to attend.