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    April11bride    April 9, 2011  

    I'm not Catholic..but my fiance is. I have no idea where to even start when planning the ceremony. I want it to be as short and sweet as possible. I got a cocktail hour and reception to make it to! Can anyone share what they used for their ceremony? I don't know the name of any church songs or readings so I'm really at a loss.. 

     
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    Jacqi    February 28, 2009  

    Are you talking about getting married in a Catholic ceremony or just incorporating some traditions into a secular ceremony?

    There's not really much to plan in a Catholic wedding. You don't have much say about the order of things. But you do get to pick the readings and music. The priest should give you guidance on that.

     
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    April11bride    April 9, 2011  

    Oh ok thanks! Yes, we are having it at a Catholic church. I wasn't sure if the priest provided all the song and reading choices. I would much rather be told my options then to create something on my own.

     
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    jedeve    August 14, 2010   Montana

    @April11bride: Catholic weddings are perfect for not having a ton of options for the ceremony, so you're in luck!

    Ask your church for the book "Together For Life." Most marriage counseling programs through the Church use it. It will show you your options for readings. 

    I would suggest going to a mass with your fiance. Your wedding will be almost exactly like that, except at the point where the Eucharist starts in a regular sunday mass, you will say your vows. 

    You will be able to pick your music, too. All music must be religious. This can be tricky depending on what kind of feel you want it to have. Not all classical music is religious (Here Comes the Bride is not allowed!) and not all religious music has to be classical.

    Check out www.foryourmarriage.org. It was one of the best resources I found preparing for my wedding!

     
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    Magdalena    December 1, 2011  

    @jedeve: That's a great website!! I've never seen it before. Thanks for posting it!!

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    Our church liturgist gave us a book that explained all the parts of the ceremony and had all the music and reading choices.  There was a worksheet in the book that we photocopied and filled in with all our choices.  There are also different variations for the portions that the priest says, so you get to choose those too.  I was actually surprised at the amount of choice. We chose to have an organist and the traditional music.  We also gave flowers to Mary while the cantor sang Ave Maria.

     

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