- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
Just set up a meeting with the preist. Talk to him about your concerns. They will "hopfully" be helpful and understanding, I say this because some parishes are more stricked than others. You might need to get baptized, but this is somthing that im sure the church will be willing to do for you. Also you will have to go to precana or pre marrige classes you can find those anywhere, google it! Most churches will book your date but not do much else without the precana certificate. Churches in my area range from 250- 1000 doller "donation" for the wedding. Also a vocalist or organist will be extra. Catholic churches get booked up quick so if there is one your fiance really wants I would contact them and set up a meeting with there preist or decan as soon as you can!
Also, i would be straight forward and tell them you are not catholic and would like to be and need to know the steps to getting there- im sure they will help you out
You need to contact the priest of the church you want to marry in and register to become a member there. Like pp said, each church requires a different donation to get married there. Mine is 500. 600 is we use their musicians. They'll help you through the process and should welcome you back :)
OK no, sorry if I was unclear. I was raised catholic, baptised I dont worship now, I consider myself catholic. I contacted the church where I want to marry--they told me I need to get documents from MY priest, which I dont have--so my question is how to get "certified" or "approved" by a priest near my home-how to find someone to be MY priest here where I live so I can take the documents required to the church where I plan to marry
@Jenbee: sorry didnt mean to not reply to you,I need to FIND a priest locally I guess, to get the documents required by the church where I will marry, I dont know what if anything they will charge me for the documents...or what I will need and does anyone know how long the course is, if I have to take it?
I have no idea what the Catholic Church in another country requires, but here is what I need to do here in the states. I had to call the church I was baptized at for my baptismal record; it also needs to show my sacraments on it (communion and confirmation). I believe you each need to fulfill all of your sacraments to get married in a Catholic Church WITH a mass. I am under the impression you can have a ceremony (not a full mass) without all of your sacraments fulfilled.
I just called for my baptismal record, there was no charge and they are mailing it to me. My pre-cana requires either 1 weekend retreat OR 1 weekend day for the workshop. A couple other little things and a couple meetings with the priest. But, every church seems to be different.
You should register at the Catholic Church you live by or where you’ll be living with your soon to be husband for now.
Agreed that you need to have your sacrements done before you can be married Catholic. You'd need to inquire about RCIA, do your first communion and become confirmed. The other church is probably looking for documentation that you have completed all of your sacrements in order to perform the marriage.
As a pp said, you may be able to get away with a marriage ceremony but it would depend on the church and priest in the other country.
Just find a church in your area and register then talk to the priest there. DH is catholic and we were in the same boat - not current members of a parish and getting married in a different parish than where we live. We started going to a church where we live and did all the marriage prep here. That included:
An intial meeting with the priest (at the church where we live), a counseling session following the FOCCUS test (test is free and online, counseling session was $100 and was mandatory for all couples)
Pre-cana: You usually have options - sometimes it's a weekend thing which is what we did $250 I think but that includes your rooms and food for the weekend, sometimes you can just do an hour class each weekend for like 3 weekends, sometimes it is just a 1-day thing. The priest at the parish where you live will be able to tell you more.
Collecting all the required documentation (baptismal certificates for both you and your FI, his confirmation certificate if he was confirmed, 2 right-to-marry forms for each of you stating that you are doing this because you want to and not because someone is forcing you.
Once all the prep work was completed, the priest at the parish we live at sent all the info to the parish we were getting married at.
@RR: DH was not confirmed but we still had the option of a full mass. I think it depends on the priest who is marrying you and what he is comfortable with.
@ju1244: You'll need to call around and ask if a priest would be willing to do your marriage preparation. You'll almost need to stipulate that you'd be happy to become a member of that parish. (That often means a weekly monetary offering at mass.)
Is your FI confirmed and actively practicing the faith? Most diocese require that at least one half of the couple be fully practicing Catholics. That means you might need to commit to going to church regularly and going through RCIA so that you can receive the sacraments of the eucharist and confirmation.
Yes they can mail it to you. You just have to contact them and tell them you need it for your new parish.
@STBSchmidt: That's why I said that is what I have to do. Each church is different. I did not have to provide any confirmation records... communion and confirmation is entered into baptismal records (supposed to). It's funny how different each one is.
But, honestly, I'm not even sure if this information is helpful to you OP since you are getting married in another country! You really need to find out what exactly they are requiring you to have. You need to specifically ask if First Communion/Confirmation is required there.
My fi is not catholic, I was baptized catholic and had my first communion and went to mass every Sunday until I was 18. I was never confirmed but the preist at my parents church is still letting us have a full mass.
Depending on what country this is you may have a problem if you have not had all your sacrements, the US seems to be pretty easy going in some parts but if you go over to Italy.. (obviously) they are super strict.
@TopazWedding: Yes, agreed, made an appt with a local priest, he said Baptismal Certificate is all I need! Good news since its the only thing the parish can find. (literally 2 years of books are missing) Will I have to take a class of any sort? I will, am just curious. Also wondering--are there rules about dresses anymore? I only remember no bare shoulders, right?
@ju1244: Dress code depends on the parish as well--and, really, comes down to who you ask sometimes. :-\ One person told me strapless was okay, as long as it wasn't low-backed or showed cleavage...and another was appalled that I had been told that. In the end, I'm glad I erred on the modest side and had pretty wide straps.
In which country are you getting married? :)
I'm getting married in a Catholic church in Argentina. I'm not Catholic myself - at least not baptized - so we are having what they call a "mixed ceremony." Apparently there's not much of a difference.
All my fiance needed was his certificate of baptism for marriage, which he acquired at the church where he was baptized. In our case he also needed a pass to marry outside his parish. We took the pre-marital classes, which aren't anything to worry about. It was more like a miniworkshop on married life!
There's some paperwork and legwork involved, but all in all it's not so complicated.
As for strapless vs sleeves... I've seen pictures of brides in Argentina wearing strapless dresses inside the church so I feel confident mine should be fine, especially considering that I will be wearing a veil. It's not like the straps cover too much up anyway. ;) If you have doubts, ask someone from the congregation.
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
 vorpalette |
26 |
| ellisrobertson | 24 |
| caseyleigh10 | 23 |
| Brielle | 23 |
| les105 | 22 |
| lionskitty | 22 |
| fishbone | 22 |
| SouthernGirl | 21 |
| mypinkshoes | 21 |
| kat2014 | 19 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| JKL2013 | 2 |
| KitKatNYC | 1 |
| hisgoosiegirl | 1 |
| September29 | 1 |
| jessitaylor | 1 |
| KCKnd2 | 1 |
| SoftKitty | 1 |
Hi, I need the lowdown on how to facilitate getting "qualified" for a catholic wedding.
I plan to marry in a catholic church in another country where my FI lives, I contacted that church and they said I need MY priest to prepare my documents (qualifications)
First: I dont belong to a parish. I really only have attended services with my parents and they have retired SO assume, that other than being baptized catholic I have no connection to any church. Any tips on how to find a parish? What it will cost? What I need?
We are happy to promise to raise our children catholic and lead a catholic life after we are married but I have not been observant as an adult-I'm hoping the church will be happy to have us back in the fold and make it easy for us--or wont they?
HELP PLEASE