Post # 1
Hello fellow bees,
I was wondering if anyone happened to know of or could recommend any one to officiate a Catholic ceremony outside the church? My fiance is Catholic however I am not. We have agreed to hold the ceremony at the reception site as it is best for both of our families as well as this is what I’m most comfortable with. I would really like to include his faith as much as possible but am having little luck in finding a Catholic Priest/Deacon in Houston, TX willing to perform the ceremony outside the church.
Also, we have lived together for a few years now so my understanding is that the church is usually not very willing to perform even a tradiational Catholic ceremony in the church in our situation.
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
@jnewel1: In my diocese, they will not perform Catholic weddings outside. They will only officiate inside the church. Check with your diocese.
Post # 4
@jnewel1: You are not going to get very far with that. Even if you find someone to do it, it will not be “official” or recognized in the church. This means that technically you will be living in sin, and will not be able to baptise any children in the Catholic church, and your DH will not be able to take communion. I’m not Catholic but DH is, and it was important to him for the marriage to be recognized. What we ended up doing was having a small ceremony with just immediate family in the church on a Thursday, and then having the actual big wedding we had planned with all of our guests the next day.
edit: living together before marriage is only a deal breaker for some priests. Ours actually told us he thought it was a good idea
Post # 5
I’ve seen priests performing outside here, so it’s a matter of getting a permit, so I’m guessing they do that here.
Post # 6
@havfrue: It’s not a matter of getting a permit, actually. It’s the Catholic church’s belief and teaching. Most other denominations will do it, but not the Catholics usually, so they are different in that way 🙂
Post # 7
I’m a fully practicing Catholic, so I understand this entirely. But it does happen, albeit, yes, darn near impossible, that you could get a special dispensation to do this. In order to make sure it is valid, you’d have to make sure you have the local diocesis / Bishop officially permitting this though.
Easier route is to get married in a small proper church, and just have a blessing outside the day of the larger event.
Post # 8
@havfrue: Interesting. I have never heard of a priest marrying someone outside the church.
None of the dioceses where I live will allow it.