(Closed) Catholic wedding question

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 4
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Don’t worry about not knowing anything, yet; that’s what the classes are for!  I started my RCIA classes in August 2007 (I had already been baptized in another Christian church), and I finished my confirmation on Easter 2008.  I took my RCIA classes at my Catholic college, so there was a set time schedule for progression through the Sacraments (baptisim, reconciliation, etc…) but some churches take more or less time to work through their program.

My best advice is to just really think about everything you learn and discuss in the classes.  The more you read/pray/think about/discuss outside the classes and Mass, I think the easier the transition will be for you.  Honestly, one of the hardest things for me to understand were the “Catholic moves.”  I already knew a lot of the basic theology, but it takes some time to become comfortable with the moves of Mass (especially all the special prayers and rites that happen during holidays/holy days or additional rites outside of Mass like the Stations of the Cross).  My suggestion is to go to Mass more than once a week, if possible.  The more often you practice, the more comfortable you become; then you can concentrate on why you’re really there instead of being self-conscious if you “mess up.”

I would also add that my Fi was my sponsor (like a godparent for an adult), and I highly recommend it if possible.  We had (and continue to have) such deep spiritual conversations that have made us much closer.  If you can, it’s an amazing experience to share with your Fi.   

Good luck, TiMonica!  If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask; also, just enjoy the journey!  RCIA, confirmation, and a Catholic wedding ceremony have all been awesome experiences for me, and hope they will be for you, too!

Post # 5
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611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Congratz and I’m so happy that you’ve decided to venture into this journey. I myself also attended RCIA 9 years ago. The classes I attended were very laid back and it was more about allowing you to get to know the Church and to let the parish to get to know you. It’s a place where no question is a stupid question. I was also able to demystify alot of prejudices and misconceptions that I have about the Church. In the end, you’re also not required to go through with baptism and confirmation if you’re not comfortable.

just FYI, I would also like to add that the Catholic church does not require the non-catholic spouse to be baptised in order to be married in the church. It’s kind of weird that the parish you looked into requires that.

Post # 6
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@ pren79 – I think it’s common for parishes to require baptisim.  Our parish actually requires both to be baptized Christian for a regular wedding ceremony, and both to confirmed in the Catholic church in order to have a wedding within Mass.  The SF diocese must be much more liberal than the Sac diocese, lol!  🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I was under the impression that only one had to be baptized Catholic.  But it seems, as usually is the case, that different dioceses have different rules.

Good thing my parish didn’t require us to both be confirmed.  Otherwise we wouldn’t have been able to have a full mass…. Then again, maybe my husband would be confirmed now, if it did 🙁

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