Post # 1
My FI and I got engaged about a month ago and are torn between a Catholic wedding or a destination wedding in Jamaica. I grew up Catholic, he didn’t but my mother believes very strongly of us getting married in the church. I have been divorced and am currently going through the Catholic annulment process. The thought of the church looking at me like I am married to my ex-husband forever disgusts me.
Question: If my annulment is granted and I do a destination wedding am I still able to receive the sacraments at mass? Would we be able to get the marriage “blessed” by the Catholic Church after? I understand these are all questions for my priest but I’m sure there are other bees who have been in the same situation.
Any help/advice would be appreciated!
Post # 2
“If my annulment is granted and I do a destination wedding am I still able to receive the sacraments at mass?”
The Church would consider you to be in a putative marriage. The destination meeting would not meet the requirements of a valid/lawful marriage according to Church/Canon Law. As such, the Church recognizes your sincere attempt to exchange matrimonial consent. It would be much like having a wedding without filing the legal paperwork to have the State recognize your marriage.
To solve this situation, the Canon Law has provisions for a convalidation. You may be required to renew your consent in front of a Catholic witness (priest), but this isn’t always required. Sometimes Catholics leave the faith, get married outside of the Church and have been married for years, with children and then want to return to the faith.
Generally speaking, it is considered an abuse of the law to use the convalidation as a way to get around the laws that would prevent you from having the type of wedding you want, but apparently some priests do recommend this route to Catholics who would rather leave the Church entirely if it meant they couldn’t have their wedding the way they wanted it.
Post # 3
WillowAMM: ^^^ she did a great job explaining it. My understanding for convalidation is you would just have to go through the church counseling and that they will ask why you didn’t choose to be married in the church this time around. I have heard from a lot of people though that the best way to get answers is to talk to an actual priest and not get information from the secretaries. Good luck
Post # 4
twoangels: my so is divorced. They were married by a justice of peace at town hall. Religion was not involved in their wedding at all ! their marriage only lasted a few months. I always wanted to get married in a Catholic church. Can I do this ? Do we have to try to get his marriage annulled Even though he is already divorced? ? Please help