Post # 1
I am catholic, went to catholic school for 13 years, and my parents go to church every weekend. I don’t attend church regularly anymore partly becuase I am finishing up my masters and work on sundays and partly because my Fiance isn’t catholic.
Here’s my question… my parents would love for me to get married in our catholic church back home. I am not opposed to the idea but I don’t want my Fiance to feel uncomfortable or feel like he is being pressured to convert to the catholic religion. I would be fine with getting married in a christian church but my Fiance doesn’t really have a church that he belongs to and my parents are pushing pretty hard for a catholic wedding. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How was it to have a wedding that was different from yours or your Fiance beliefs? Did it put any stress on the planning process to know that your Fiance was getting married outside of his/her religion? Any advice on how to make this situation work for everyone involved?
Thanks for your help 🙂
Post # 3
Not a complete answer to your question but this might help…
My parents are (multi) denominational. My mom is Catholic, brought up in Catholic school until high school, ect my dad is prodesant. They were married in my mom’s church. Besides the churches pre-marital counciling and agreeing to raise your kids in the Catholic church as far as I know there is no other stipulation or requirement for him. My dad only attended my mom’s church on special occasions, baptisms, first communion, ect. But when I was young I got to be appart of two churches (my dad’s and my mom’s)!
Since I decided to rebel during the time the rest of my class was getting confirmed and apparently my FI’s parents were feeling lazy the week he was sapose to be baptisized we will be going the civil route…
Post # 4
This is something you and your Fiance need to decide on for yourselves based on how YOU feel, not on how your parents feel. You also need to contact the church in question to see if they would marry you or not, and what would be required for them to do so. Then, take those requirements into consideration before making a final decision.