catholic wedding without a mass?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

your best bet is to find the church you would like and talk to them to see what they can do for you. some will not marry you because your FI is not catholic, and that would end that.

if there aren’t any issues with that, you can have the church ceremony minus the eucharist/breaking of the bread, so it’s still about 40 mins.

Post # 4
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@beeb:  You can have a catholic ceremony without the hour long mass however the priest willprobably push for the mass. You may have a hard time finding a church that will marry you if your FI isn’t catholic.I know in my church they won’t marry you unless both are catholic. My friend had to call around at the other churches in the area and she was lucky tofinds achurch in the area that  would do it but her “donation” price increased.

Post # 5
26 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

The church we’re getting married in gave us the option of a full mass or not. They didn’t really even try to push us in the full mass direction; it was just here’s option 1 and here’s option 2. I don’t think either of my sisters were given the option, though (two different churches). I really think it’s specific to the church. Call a few and see. Our biggest issue was finding a church that allowed weddings for non-registered parishioners. I think, at least in our area, the ones that held ceremonies for non-parishioners tended to be a little more “liberal” (i.e no full mass, only one needs to be catholic, etc.).

Post # 6
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@beeb:  My DH is catholic and I was raised orthodox like your FI. They didn’t let us have a full mass because I wasn’t catholic, which was great cause we didn’t want a super long ceremony! Definitely go talk with the priest and see what he says because it differs church to church. I know some people say they won’t marry you if you both arent catholic but I had no problems, when the deacon found out I was raised orthodox he joked that I was practically catholic. Be prepared for all the classes you have to take though! Although, we enjoyed every class it was a long process! 

Post # 7
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

In our Diocese they told us they don’t usually perform a full mass unless both people are Catholic, so I am pretty confident that would be that case for you since your FI is not Catholic. That being said, you will still have to go through all the marriage preparations/pre-cana and FI will have to promise to raise kids Catholic. I would contact a local parish wherever you are getting married to find out their marriage prep requirements.

I have heard some other posters have trouble if at least one of them wasn’t actively practicing because you typically do all your marriage prep with your home parish. I am wondering if you can do it through your mother’s parish?

I am not trying to discourage you at all, just letting you know what my Diocese has told me and what I have seen from other people’s experiences I have heard about.  

I would say to ultimately go with what will make you both happy, if you want to get married in the church, go for it, but if not, do what you want. 

Good luck! 

Post # 8
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@beeb:  I think you’ll get your wish.  Since FI is a baptized Christian (though not Catholic), your wedding will not be a full Mass.  Basically, it’s everything but communion.  Your marriage will still be a Sacrament.

Post # 9
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You’d have to talk to a priest, this is possible for when one party isn’t Catholic but with both being non Catholic I think is a no go… or hard…


Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@asianbarbie, I agree it might be a concern if OP is not actively practicing and FI is not Catholic. It does happen where people get married in the church because they  were raised Catholic but if you have no home parish, it is difficult.

It may not be impossible but you will for sure have to go talk to a priest. That’s why I would suggest trying your mother’s parish, since you would at least have a family member who is a parishoner.  

Post # 12
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@beeb:  You will HAVE to register at a church to be considered a practicing Catholic. It doesn’t necessarily have to be at the one that you plan on getting married at, normaly the one in your hometown is sufficient.  If you want to get married at a different Catholic church, you just have to do a lot of paperwork to get approval to get married in a different parish, and permissions/approvals from both churches.   Not sure if this applies to you, but just throwing it out there.  


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