Post # 1
My fiance is Catholic while I am Hindu and we would like to respect both sides of the family by having a Catholic and Hindu ceremony. However, because I’m not Catholic, we’re having a tough time finding a priest that will marry us-as of now, we’ve even settled to get married at the reception location (same as where the Hindu ceremony will be). Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you guys do to get past it? Any advice will be helpful.
Post # 3
You really can’t find a priest to marry you? That is strange to me, as I know that Catholics allow interfaith marriages. We are getting married by a Jesuit priest. The Jesuits tend to be a little more liberal and open-minded so maybe try them. See if there are any Jesuit universities near you. In order for the marriage to be formally recognized in the catholic church however you will have to get physically married in the church. It may be easiest to have 2 ceremonies (that is what FI and I are doing! He is catholic and I am agnostic).
Post # 4
@sarinasoni: Unfortunately, a Catholic priest will only marry you if you go to pre-marital counseling with him and sign a contract saying all future children will be raised Catholic. On top of that, most will only marry you if your FI regularly attends Mass at his parish. That said, if you live somewhere with a very liberal priest, he might do it.
You could possibly find an ex-priest or a non-Roman Catholic priest who might be willing to marry you outside a church. Most don’t have big churches, so you’d most likely get married at the reception site anyway.
Post # 5
Our priest told us that only the Catholic member has to agree to raise children catholic, not the non-catholic member. And it’s NOT a signed contract, it’s just a “will you agree to raise your children in the catholic faith?” “yes” verbally. Our priest actually told us he thought this was dumb and didnt know why it is required, and basically told us “we won’t be watching you and telling you how to raise your children don’t worry.”
You do have to attend the pre cana classes as PP said. Ours is this coming Sat and Sun. It’s run by a married couple and talks about practical things like finances, children, etc. You have to sign up for a class before you get married.
FI is not currently a member of any church (in our area currently) so we are getting married in a university chapel. Your FI will have to talk to a priest and do some research, because there may be some paperwork he needs to get taken care of since you are not catholic (basically needs to get approval from the bishop or the marriage— silly i know).