CoffeeHound- tread lightly with the things you write on this forum. While I respect your right to have an opinion which differs from mine, I noticed that you just joined WB, you don’t seem to be a bride-to-be, and all of your comments are limited to religious subjects and are of an aggressive, preachy, nature.
The statements you have directed at me are not only inflammatory and unhelpful, but are the very things that drive would-be parishioners away from the Catholic Church. With all due respect, I don’t need a tutorial from you about my spirituality. Spirituality is personal, it’s in your heart, you carry it with you, it helps make you who you are. Regardless of what type of wedding ceremony I have, or who I have officiating, I carry my spirituality with me everyday- wherever I go, whatever I do. Worshiping and attending church services and participating in religious ceremonies/rituals are merely an outward reflection of that. Spirituality is not about being showy or proving yourself to anyone; it’s about your personal relationship with God or a Higher Power- or whatever you believe in. It’s not about being part of an exclusive club and making other people who aren’t part of that club feel bad.
I am Catholic. I was baptized and raised Catholic. I am going to marry a wonderful man who happens to be Jewish. I am not going to turn in my Catholic card when I do that. My faith is just that- MY FAITH- it doesn’t get terminated, and no one is going to take it from me unless I choose for that to happen. FI and I are confident enough within ourselves, our faiths, and our religions, that we don’t need to change each other or prove ourselves to anyone. This is the INTERFAITH board- for people who actually are in interfaith relationships to support each other and share ideas and experiences relating to interfaith issues- NOT for religious zealots to hop on board and spin their own religious agenda. I’m sorry you seem to be so threatened by the idea that I would have a woman priest co-officiate at my wedding. I met with several male Catholic priests prior to meeting with her. They were rude, disrespectful, lazy, and obnoxious. Their behavior was so offensive, I was embarrassed to be associated with them. I was not about to let them ruin one of the most important days of my life for “fear” of repercussions from the Catholic Church. It was THEIR behavior that led me to even consider going outside my Archdiocese to find an officiant who cared about us and our wedding ceremony in the first place. In a way, I suppose I should thank them.
I appreciate your “concern” about my sinning ways, but the guests who are coming to our wedding are well aware that it is an interfaith ceremony, being co-officiated by two completely different spiritual leaders, outdoors, under a chuppah. Luckily for me, my guests are not the type to be as intolerant and disrespectful as to walk out of my wedding ceremony. If they do, then that’s their problem, not mine. I don’t take on problems that don’t belong to me.
I’ll pray for you. God Bless. 🙂