Catholic/Non-Catholic Christian (Protestant) Wedding

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

What do you want to do?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

P.s. I’m catholic and if is too it’s a really beautiful ceremony. but you should do what you are comfortable with.

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Blushing bee

MsAntsy:  I agree with PPs, Catholic ceremonies are beautiful.  I am catholic, but have decided to go waaay untraditional and have my brother get ordained. My mother’s parents are not happy about it, but my dad’s parents are (they are all catholic and go to the same church).  I did what I wanted to do, if your FI truly wants a catholic ceremony, and you are okay with that, then go for it.  If not, find a way to compromise.  I love the fact that you are having both there, that is so awesome! Maybe you can find a way to meet with them both at the same time and explain the situation and see if they can come up with a solution.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m Catholic, and FI isn’t, and we have been having the same talk! One idea that we had was to have the ceremony in a neutral location, and have both a priest and pastor perform the ceremony together. Kind of a blended ceremony. That way both religions are represented, and you can incorporate the aspects of each that YOU like. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We had a blended ceremony with a catholic priest (for my DH) and my minister (for me, I’m Presbyterian).

I really wanted to get married in the church where I grew up and was baptized, and FI’s home church is in another country so it was a no brainer for us to do it in my church.

If you don’t get married in the Catholic Church proper be aware that there was a TON of paperwork involved to get the priest to marry us outside of the catholic church and have the marriage be validated. The priest was super amenable and helpful because it was still in a church (not a non religious venue) and I was a member in good standing of that church – and DH’s preist was in Ireland. The priest and my minister worked together to create a really beautiful blended ceremony. 

My brother (in the same situation with his fiancee) just tried the same thing for his upcoming wedding (super cute, it’s going to be at a children’s museum) – my minister will marry them there, but the priest won’t – it’s not a church.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Echoing PP in general a catholic priest will not marry you anyplace but a Catholic Church 

 

you our need to show extenuating circumstances (like being on your death bed in a hospital type) 

 

unfortunately this means there isn’t really a compromise to be had either it’s in his church or it’s not catholic

 

personally I would get married either in neither church or in the church you intended to raise your family in regardless of what either family wants- this is about you (and FH) faith not his grandparents

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

MsAntsy:  I think the Catholic Church may be open to your pastir coming to the church to do his blessing. I would get in contact with the Catholic Church now and find out. 

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