Post # 1
Oh wow, I got hot all over!! We met with our photographer today and signed the contract, and when I got home I had a post on my Facebook wall from her saying "I can’t wait to photograph your wedding!" It’s not her fault – I didn’t tell her we are "unofficially" engaged and haven’t made an announcement yet, and I even told her we could talk on Facebook – I just assumed she would MESSAGE me, not post on my wall! My mistake. I feel like I’ve been trying to have my cake and eat it too with so much planning under the radar.
So of course I had a couple "Is there something you need to tell us?" comments… uh oh! I deleted everything and messaged those people, "Yes, we’re getting married! But we’re waiting on the announcement until the ring is made and on my finger, so let’s keep it on the DL until then!" I’m hoping not too many people saw it, so we can wait on the announcement until after the ring… but I’m doubtful.
FI says, "Its just like the Twilight book that got leaked online – yeah, some people know ahead of time, but it doesn’t spoil the real thing." I know he has a fun proposal planned and I don’t want to take away from that. I feel like I’ve messed it up by being such a planner. But things get snatched up around here so quickly, our photographer said she has 3 other June weddings, so I feel like it was the best.
Sigh. Tell me its okay? Or not.
Post # 3
Its okay! Only the serious Facebook stalkers will be on top of things like that 🙂
Post # 4
I think it will be fine. Hopefully your Facebook friends will understand your situation, but I think that you phrased your response to their inquiries perfectly! I think that even if word spreads a little bit, people will be understanding about why you waited when you decide to announce the news.
Post # 5
oh oh, I am sure the situation will be easy to put the fire out though with all the people trying to figure out. sure your waiting for the ring, but it doesnt mean you cant start planning – and h opefully people understand that.
and maybe let your photographer know any other details that they would like to discuss should be done over private message lol
Post # 6
Yeah, I would follow up with the photographer on how to correctly use FB. I personally think that FB is the devil. But we are all still on it.
Post # 7
Sounds like you handled it well! But I agree, better fololow up with the photog and let her know to keep things hush hush!
Post # 8
She’s obviously new to Facebook… everybody knows you don’t post anything on the wall until the relationship status has been changed! I wouldn’t worry about it — most people probably didn’t see it and hopefully those who do now know will keep quiet until the big reveal!
Post # 9
Ha, ditto, she’ll learn FB Etiquette soon enough!
Sounds like you handled it well though. You could also say something like "of course we’re getting married SOMEday" so it’s not like a right away kinda thing. No big deal.
Post # 10
I think it sounds like you can keep this pretty contained. If people ask you about it, you could jsut say that you’re doing some pre-planning, but don’t have anything official to announce yet. I know a lot of people look into booking vendors before they’re actually engaged. We actually scouted locations a few weeks before we were official, because we knew we’d want to book immediately to get our first choice.
Post # 11
ugh….Facebook (and Myspace…especially creepy creepy Myspace) are the devil…but, I think you will be okay! it seems you did cleanup pretty quickly of the situation…And early congratulations to you, by the way! 🙂
Post # 12
yeah thats the problem with facebook; my fiance told me to stay low key til he told my his family he didnt want people to find out through facebook
so I had to keep warning my friends and family not to post
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
My cousin found out through my Facebook and then my she told my Aunt and Uncle… I felt SO BAD!
Post # 14
I love how he brought the Twilight book into it. It’s okay, as long as your friends don’t say anything. I guess you should have a little chat (facebook chat?) with your photographer and tell her it is NOT ok to post private information on your wall!
Post # 15
I agree! I think that only the people who actually said something to you are the ones who know. If you’ve asked them to keep it quiet, they will, and only the FB stalkers will see.
Definitely don’t worry and don’t let it ruin your FI’s dream proposal to you
Post # 16
Thanks for the support! I did a lot of quick damage control — I did message my photographer, but I didn’t want her to feel bad, since I should have mentioned that it was still under wraps.
I’m just hoping there isn’t a lot of gossip going on about it that I don’t know! Lots of people see things on their news feeds and don’t comment on it… dumb Facebook!