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Yep! I am Caucasian and my fiance is Asian-Vietnamese to be exact! He always jokes that we aren't really interacial because I have "asian" in my race, hence the caucASIAN. Funny guy! I must say when it is just the two of us-I don't notice it. He is the love of my life and my other half! He was born in Orange County. We are so much alike-that us being from different cultures never really crossed my mind. What I do love and honor about him is he loves the fact he was born in America, but he never trys to cover up his ancestry. (That is something many of the previous guys I dated had done and it disappointed me greatly)
I do notice it when we are out and about ..moreso in Orange County then in LA. We live in LA and Orange County. It is very common to see a white male with an asian female. but not the other way around.
I would love to hear of any similar stories!
I live in the OC too! My finace is half Chinese and I'm caucasian for sure. Mr PK identifies more with his Asian side then the other. He does have Irish features including freckles (which I have too) so people always say in a weird way we look alike!
But I am right there with you, lots of Caucasian Men with Asian women out here, and I don't see many of the other way around.
I am from the OC but currently live in dc. i'm korean with a white fh... never thought it'd happen but he's my perfection... i see a lot of the asian women/white males out this way... hmmm, maybe its a coastal thing?
I'm whitish, but I've always joked that I'm an egg (white on the outside, yellow on the inside). After two 3 year relationships with Asian guys, I was sure that I was going to get married to an Asian and have beautiful hapa haoli babies).
It didn't happen for the long term, but I never had any problems with getting strange looks or comments (only once in New Jersey on the train into the City)... In California, no one cares!
There aren't as many in our situation, but they're out there!
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I agree that it's more common to see white men with asian women (me and my husband) not the other way around. Off the top of my head, I can only think of a handful of couples that I konw in real life where the guy is asian and the girl is white. On weddingbee there was Mrs. Cream Puff and Mr. Cream Puff :)
Oh and I just realized Mrs. Tulip and Mr. Tulip are another weddingbee couple. I think Miss Stiletto and Mr. Stiletto are too...
I am caucasian and my fi is asian (Indian so he doesn't think that is asian) which is a huge running joke. Especially since in a sociology class I took the teacher said that people from India are caucasian but yeah we get looks but we don't notice them that much anymore. They are usually from Indian people not white but maybe that is a bay area thing because everything is diverse.
I am Caucasian (Greek-American) and my fiance is Filipino-Australian (born in Philippines, raised in Australia) so it's an interesting mix especially when it comes to wedding planning!
In terms of looks or stares, we never really got any in NYC where we live, but when we went to the Philippines, we were stared at and whispered about from here to kingdom come. The only "Americans" that you usually see are middle-aged men so to see a twenty-something girl was crazy!
According to my MIL, I looked like a "doll" (a rather tall and blue eyed one to boot) - I flew into Manila ahead of my fiance because I was flying in from Japan so I met up with his aunts then we went for lunch at Jolibee (their version of McDonald's) while we waited for him to land...the girl behind the counter was staring at me so pointedly and giggling it made me feel a bit uncomfortable. I lived in Japan for 18 months and never felt like I stuck out there, it was such an odd feeling.
My sister is caucasian with blonde hair and brown eyes and very fair skinned compaired to the rest of my Italian family! Her husband is Korean. He was born in Korea and lived in an orphanage there till he was 3. I really never thought twice about it and don't notice anyone givig them weird looks. They live in St. Paul and I live in Chicago, so maybe it's also a big city thing.
Two of our very close friends are white female/asian male. She's a very petit, midwestern gal, and he's taiwanese. Their little half-asian baby is the CUTEST THING EVER.
the bluebells are another asian male/caucasian female couple. 
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One of my best friends is a Korean man, and quite a few people thought we would end up getting married after my ex and I split up! Ethnicity doesn't really matter to me, if anything it makes things a little more interesting. My FI is white, German/Polish and I'm Polish through and through with a smidge of german. I think its all about perception, and as long as your happy it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
well, i'm not engaged *yet* (in the waiting boat) but i've been with my bf for more than 5 years, and i'm white, and he's malaysian indian. it's gotten so i don't really notice any looks any more.. but a few years ago i visited malaysia with him, and everyone there stared at me! kids, elderly people, store clerks, everyone. most of his family lives in a small village, so i guess many of them had never seen a white person before, and he said that they probably assumed i was a movie star there to shoot a video :)
i think diversity is something to be cherished, and i know i've learned a lot from him simply because our cultural upbringing is soooo different
When I lived in So Cal, I dated a half chinese guy. i'm 1/4 korean. It's pretty common on the coasts! Here in the midwest, it's still kind of taboo because some retards are still racist about it. *sigh* what can you do?!
I think happas are the prettiest ever though! Cutie little happa babies 
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My FI is straight up white though. Irish, Polish, German, definitely european. Sometimes I forget I'm "white" too because I'm always very wary of the fact that I'm part Korean because I love that so much!
Speaking of which, when we travelled through Arkansas once, the women all glared at my family weird because my mom is half korean. They told us a bathroom didn't work, and then we saw this nasty white hoosier woman come out of it! So, needles to say, the midwest needs to catch up with my OC roots
This is not wedding/weddingbee related, but John and Kate (as in John and Kate + 8) come to mind. Talk about some adorable children...
I'm not in a multi-ethnic relationship, but my MOH is extremely white (Swedish-American) and her fiance is Japanese. They are just perfect for each other... both silly and sweet and sincere, and both short! I think the funniest thing about it will be my sweet little white-bread friend with her very Scandanavian maiden name taken on her husband's extremely ethnic Japanese name. It was so cute to see the "HerLast-His Last wedding" on the order tag that came attached to my BM dress for their wedding. :)
I'm caucasian (Norweigan and Irish-American) and my FI is Vietnamese. He lived in Vietnam with his family until he was 3 and then they moved to the states. I have a good girlfriend whose husband is Korean. We spend a lot of time with her son and we like to joke that he's going to grow up and think all moms and dads are a white lady and an asian guy!
I love the differences in our families, our culture, our looks even. We both bring a lot to the table and it is very fun. Having him show my Norweigan family how to make spring rolls was so fun! "Oh ja, so yummy!" they all said. We live in Seattle and it is fairly common to see interracial couples here. I notice that people do look at us sometimes and really notice it when we go back to Idaho to visit my family there. I think it is normal to notice differences in people and it is important to acnowledge, but respect, all of our differences. He is often totally weirded out by how I sunburn and blush and thinks it is really funny and when he and his family blab in Vietnamese, I just don't know what to think! Plus, when we have kids, I want to be able to talk to them about questions they may get- like if they were adopted because I'm white or if they're called Bananas (yellow on the outside, white on the inside) or anything like that that I have seen my bi-racial friends go through as we were growing up.
My male cousin and two of my uncles married caucasian women, so to me its the norm, but my family situation is probably unique. This happens alot at my family gatherings...my mom and her two sisters like to talk in their native Chinese dialect and they sometimes forget my non-chinese speaking relatives are in the room so they have to repeat what they said in English. I understand both languages so I have to hear stories...twice. My cousin's wife told me one time she was grocery shopping with the baby and an old lady asked "Oh, where did you adopt her?" My cousin's wife has blonde hair and blue eyes and her daughter's features are asian, so she had to explain that her husband is Chinese.
I am half colombian and half russian born in NY and fi is fully chinese born in NY as well. We live in NYC and its not that big of deal. Also FI doesnt look like your avg. chinese guy, he gets confused for spanish alot, because he is darker and 6 ft tall.
@jennred782: I'm half South Asian (Pakistani) and while Caucasians never seem to notice that I'm not "white," Indians/Pakistanis always give me strange looks, especially when I'm out with just my mom (who isn't South Asian)! So I guess my parents were a white female/Asian male combo :).
I think its so interesting to see this post. I just said something to my FI the other day about how common it is to see asian female with a caucasian male (our friends just sent their save the dates) and how few couples are the reverse! It shows that you really are out there :) I love seeing the diversity of couples on the Bee!
I'm white, and my husband is full Chinese. We live in NYC so we don't really have any problems with it, but when I'm back home in Indiana, I feel like everyone is looking at us and judging us (which may not be the case, and is probably just my imagination) but there are almost no Asian people where I grew up. It's also a bit odd to have his very Asian last name (I didn't hyphenate). But, we're still newlyweds and I'm still getting used to it lol
Oh, and I'm also trying to prepare myself for the day when we're ready to have kids and, once they're born, people asking about where I adopted them from if I'm out by myself. I'm also blonde hair blue eyed, so I'm almost certain they'll look nothing like me! I found it funny that the baby I used to nanny for looked more like me than my own kids will! (people thought I was his mother ALL the time. even if his mom were right next to me, if they had to guess, they'd pick me over her lol)
I'm Asian and my FI is caucasian. I'm originally from OC/LA, so when we were living there it never really occured to me. When I lived in San Diego, I was more aware of the ethnic difference just because there isn't as much diversity down there. However, when I moved to the bay area, it was like every couple was an Asian female and white male. I felt almost, cliche! I guess it only really is noticable when you notice it. But I agree, it's probably a big city thing.
Wow! I love hearing all the stories! =) It is so interesting! <3 it!
oh it's so nice to see this thread! i'm caucasian and my fiance is korean. we live (and plan to continue to live) in korea where intercultural relationships and marriages are just becoming a big deal...and certainly VERY few white women marry korean men in korea ...and even fewer stay in korea when they do. i'm back in the toronto area for a visit and it's astonishing how many intercultural relationships are happening in canada....it's been so nice to walk with him without the stares! but really, race is never something that comes up with us in our relationship - it's always other people putting it on us. in fact, when my fiance is with me, koreans tend to regard him as mongolian or chinese because they can't imagine that a korean man would be with a white female!
I'm Chinese and married a Caucasian and honestly I think we're the perfect match. He embraces my culture and loves anything Asian. He says that he was born Asian in his previous life and can't get enough of the Asian food.
People were really accepting of us when we lived in California and even more so here in Dallas, TX (where it's quite diverse despite what most people may think).
I'm caucasian, born in England (even though I'm German/Russian) and FI is Filipino and white, born in the Philippines :) I'm blonde hair, blue-eyed, and really short while FI is insanely tall, dark hair, dark eyes and I LOVE it!
We actually get way more comments about our height difference (a foot and a half) than being a mixed race couple! I think it comes from living in a city/area that is 50% Asian and 50% caucasian.
I'm white and J is half korean (but not like by citizenship; he was born and lived in America his whole life). Ironically, he jokes that I'm more Asian than he is though, because I live in China, and he's got no connection to his Asian heritage. :)
I guess we kind of fall under this: I'm a very fair, blonde haired, blue eyed Swedish and Danish Caucasian girl. My FI is medium skin toned, has brown/ hazel eyes and black hair and 1/4 Japanese. I can't wait to see what our kids look like!
I'm cascasian and my FI is Vietnamese. He was born here in Canada, but raised in mostly vietnamese ways of life: work work work work. He's basically living his childhood now since he's moved in with me!
I'm caucasian and my fiance is mexican & filipino. I joke sometimes and call him a mexipino & me I'm just the white albino..lol!! As I have pretty large white background, scotch-irish, english & german.
it's definitely not the norm to see a white female with an asian male!
i am the stereotype inter-racial/cultural relationship. i am 100% korean female and FI is 50/50 german and polish!
and here's the kicker... my three letter maiden name... will transform into an authentic 12 letter polish last name! .... AND I DON'T EVEN HAVE AN ENGLISH FIRST NAME! lols ;)
LOVES to all of my mixed couples and to the future mixed babies!!
I am white and my FI is Chinese. However, to make things more complicated, he moved to Germany when he was 9 years old. So he has a very interesting accent :) We live in Chicago and interracial couples are fairly common here. His sister married a Caucasian man last year, which I think luckily has made his family more accepting. One of my best friends who is Taiwanese also married a Caucasian man.
My FI and I are going to visit Shanghai and his birthplace (which is apparently the Chinese boondocks) in May with his family. I am so excited! I am sure that we are going to get many stares when we go out into the mountains.
I'm Korean and my fiance is African American. People sometimes look at us funny, and on a couple occasions I have felt totally judged by a vendor or someone I thought was a friend. This is a weird experience for me. I was adopted and raised by a Caucasian family. I never really associated myself as Asian until I grew up because the Asian community here is so small. It was easy to think of myself like my friends and family because our skin colors were technically similar.
I love my fiance with all my heart, and there's nothing I would change for the world about him. But I worry about having kids because I'm afraid it's not fair to them for them to feel like they don't belong in either race. I grew up with identity issues relating to race and I know how hard it can be. I would hate for that to happen to my own kids.
I'm Caucasian and my boyfriend is Japanese. We couldn't look more different. I'm very fair and have blonde hair and he has brown eyes, dark hair, and a medium skin tone. He loves my pale skin though. He's the first of his family that was born in America and basically his whole family (minus mom and sister) still live in Japan.
Surprisingly, members of my very conservative South Georgia family are perfectly okay with our relationship, although we did get a few strange looks when I took him out in my hometown.
This describes my parents! My dad is Chinese-American and my mom is caucasian. They're in their 60's now so it wasn't as common when they got married...although we're from the Bay Area so there was a lot of interracial acceptance.
Congrats to you all & yay for hapa babies!!
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