Post # 1
My fiancé is an only child and he’s sure his parents will be PISSED that they aren’t going to get any grandkids. Of course their opinion doesn’t change ours whatsoever, but I’m just curious how any only child parents took the news that they won’t get to be grandparents.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Pinkmoon: DH and I both have one sibling. His sister is currently pregnant so we’re off the hook with his parents. But my brother is mid-30s and not having kids anytime soon but we’ve made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that we are not having grandchildren for my parents.
For awhile, like everyone else, my mom said ‘you’ll change your mind,’ she can be so damn rude! But after 4 years of repeating it it’s finally sunk in and she doesn’t bother me anymore.
You shouldn’t make any decision in your life for anyone but you, and children are a life-long commitment that I just know I’m not cut-out for!
Post # 4
We are not officially CBC, however it is a very real option on the table for FI and I. If we did have any kids, we would likely wait and have just one. I am an only child, and while I do think that my parents would be disappointed, I know they would accept our reasoning. They also struggled with the decision of having kids and I wasn’t born until they were married for 10 years, when they felt ready to accept the lifestyle. Although we have not told my parents outright, I have dropped hints that we may not start a family of our own.
I honestly think that my FI’s parents would have more of an issue with it. FI’s older sister does not plan on having kids due to medical reasons, and FI’s older brother is completely uninterested in dating, marriage, or starting a family. That leaves us as their shot for having grandkids, and they seem to want grandkids more than my parents.
Post # 5
Ok, this is going to be a bit weird… stay with me here…
My husband is an only child and the only male left with that last name (his father was an only child as well). My husband has 2 daughters (both adults now) from a previous relationship.
I have 3 siblings (older sister who has 3 kids, younger brother who has no kids and no plans to have kids, baby sister who has no plans to have kids for about 10 years, if at all). I have known for many, many years that I will not have children.
My husband and I will not be having kids together, so technically, we’re CBC.
Post # 6
I’ve never been the girl who likes/wants babies when they see them. I just have never understood the girlish appeal of a stinky drooling flesh blob! I also find the idea of pregnancy absolutely revolting, so I’ve pretty much always known it’s not for me. My family had always known this too because it’s not like a secret.
My fiancé’s plan for his parents is to just never mention it. We’re 25 now so he doesn’t think they’ll start bugging us (incessantly) for a few more years. Then we’ll see!
Post # 7
@Pinkmoon: DH and are not completely CBCers yet but we are leaning that way. I also think pregnancy looks revolting and gross and kids are full of germs which I’m afraid of! My husband is an only child and his parents already started bugging us BEFORE we were married about kids until he told them to stop. He said if they keep bugging us he will just tell them that we are not able to have kids and leave it at that. I have a brother so there might be some hope for my parents to have a grandkid..maybe lol
Post # 8
FH and I both have siblings, all of which have children or plan to have children. Our parents still want us to have kids, but there’s not so much pressure on us to have them.
Post # 9
@sweetchiquita12: Haha that’s what I told him we should tell them… that would shut them up! Hopefully, anyway. Either that or they’d be recommending every doctor in the world to us.
Post # 10
Nope. He’s got a frigin million siblings. I have a brother who isn’t married & doesn’t want kids either.
I just can’t see giving up my life. I want to do what I want when I want. That’s why I’m CBC.
Post # 11
I have one full sister and 2 half-siblings (same dad different mom). My full sister is only 22 so no one is leaning on her yet, and my other siblings are just kids themselves but I imagine out of the 4 of us someone will eventually make my dad a grandfather.
My mother is a different story. She knows I don’t want kids but I think she assumes I might change my mind or get pregnant by accident. My sister told me she doesn’t think she wants any kids either, but I don’t think she told my mom that… and she’s gay so there will be no accidental pregnancies with her.
Post # 12
My FI is an only child but I have a younger sister. Regardless of my having a sibling or not, my Mom was completely supportive of us being CBC. He hasn’t told his family yet as his Dad never badgered him with questions about kids when he was with his ex-wife, so he’s not concerned about telling his Dad now (with me) just yet.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I am not an only but my sister and I are both CBC so that leaves our parents in pretty much the same position. My mom really really really wants grandkids but that’s not in the cards so we just keep pushing the furbabies as their grandbabies. It took some repetition, but ultimately they respect us and our decisions in life. They raised us after all… and we haven’t had to remind them of that in the last couple of years so I guess it’s working….
Post # 14
I have a 10 year old son so I will chime in from the mother perspective as best I can for fun.. I like to picture having a grandbaby someday. I don’t plan on having anymore children myself because I spent my 20’s and now 30’s being a mom and I want some of the freedom I missed out on when younger. So my son is my only chance of ever being a grandma (does feel weird talking about it at 31, him 10 lol) Regardless if he told me he wasn’t going to have kids I would be happy for him yet I think I would still ask him 50 some times if he is sure because of course it would be nice to have a lil baby just like your own to watch ( keyword- watch) grow up. All in all don’t worry too much and take what the mothers or fathers of only children say with a grain of salt, Maybe they dont see how annoying it is. It’s a lot of mothers dreams to see their baby raise their own child but hey it’s a lot of people’s dream to travel all over Europe, life doesn’t have any less meaning if all your dreams don’t come true. So carry on guilt free in my opinion.