CBC – where to live

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
  • poll: We will live
    In a child friendly neighbourhood, in a kid friendly house : (7 votes)
    14 %
    In a child friendly neighbourhood, in a non-kid friendly house : (9 votes)
    18 %
    In a mixed neighbourhood : (15 votes)
    30 %
    In a neighbourhood that's not child-friendly : (7 votes)
    14 %
    We're planning on having kids : (9 votes)
    18 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2884 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    if i were CBC then i’d look to live near the things important to me. id also look for somewhere fancier than i would otherwise (as for example, kids are expensive so affording a pool/jaccuzi is more difficult)

    house near:

    – public transport

    – work

    – restaurant areas/fun places

    – family in the area (or not!)

    i dont think there are necessarily child free areas, though i guess families tend to be more often in suburbs than the city areas?


    Post # 4
    13 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    DH and I are planning to eventually have kids, but not while we live in our current house (or even in the state we live in right now). Nevertheless, we ended up in a very family-oriented neighborhood, and even a pretty large kid-friendly house (but our extra bedrooms are an office, a gym, a guest room instead of kids rooms). We wanted to be in a relatively quiet neighborhood, but walking distance from things like the library and restaurants. The neghborhoods that fit this description ended up being all pretty full of young families with kids (although that might not be true in all places). And we wanted a house that had room for all our stuff. So it ended up being a house with lots of space and bedrooms. 

    I’d base your decision more on what you like out of a neighborhood and house than whether it’s strictly kid-friendly. Even if you do end up having kids, people make all sorts of living situations work with kids. 

    Post # 5
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We currently live in a 4 ‘bedroom’ house 4 houses down from a school. We’re sort of on the fence about having kids. I say ‘bedroom’ by the way because we’ve converted one bedroom into a walk in closet, one bedroom into a gym and one bedroom into an office! The walk in closet does just have rolling racks that can be moved to turn the room into a guest room though…

    Post # 6
    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @AB Bride:  good question! We’re CBC and living in a very stepford suburb type place right now…surprisingly I love it! We’re in a big city but on the very outskirts & this whole area is like a teeny little downtown/city of it’s own. I think I would like it here more if we were in a house though, I still want a nice house and backyard for our pup.

    Ideally I think we want to be in a house on some land just outside a big city with lots to do. I want neighbors but not a suburb, maybe like an acre or two (though 5 if we could afford it!) Country meets city somewhere. We have NOT figured out where that ideal wonderful place is though lol

    Post # 7
    1823 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m CBC and I don’t own a home yet, but whenever I look for a place to live, I specifically try to find a place that’s not family friendly. I really don’t like children and I don’t want to live in a neighborhood where there are a lot of them running around. It can be hard to find such a place because fair housing laws make it difficult for the agent to legally tell you about the family makeup of neighborhood residents. What I usually like to do is drive through the neighborhood a couple of times on weekends and at night to see if there are a lot of kids around. Neighborhoods that cater to young professionals or the elderly are often a good bet. Condos also seem to be a lot better than single family homes.

    Post # 8
    3476 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    In my area, you pay a lot for a good school district.  If we were sure we weren’t going to have kids, we might look at Bedford, which is on the water and gets you a lot more house for the money than the school places.  I wouldn’t care as much about an open layout (to see kids while cooking), but I still want to see DH/interact, be a part of things, so that’s one thing that is higher value for wanting kids but not a no go.  Certain things like a place we almost bought with a pool (not entirely kid-friendly) we wouldn’t change in that I still would only buy a place with a fully fenced in pool because I don’t want neighborhood kids getting into the pool (I don’t want anything to happen to them and I don’t want the liability).  In general, my list doesn’t change – I still want outdoor space, it’s just more important with kids, etc.  The neighborhood and paying high taxes for good schools is all I’d consider trading out.  But – I still want a good neighborhood, so even that only plays a certain role.

    Post # 10
    1823 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @AB Bride:  sorry. after I posted, I realized you are Canadian so your laws may be different. In the US, fair housing laws basically mean that they can’t say or do anything to discourage people from living there because they are a member of a protected class (religion, race, gender, family status). So a landlord or agent saying outright that a neighborhood is great for childless couples can be considered illegal because it discourages families with children.


    Post # 11
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We will likely never own a home because we choose to stay in this overpriced city. Average house costs $500,000. The condos are way too small for the cost.

    Our apartment building and neighbourhood is kid friendly, but we don’t mind that since there are hardly any children on our floor to make noise and messes.

    Our unit is mostly child friendly, save for some breakables.

    Post # 12
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My biggest priority is public transit, as I don’t drive, so my priorities are:

    -Short commute

    -Close to a train or subway

    -Safe area (so I can walk at night)

    -Walkable to things like pharmacies, food shops, maybe a pub would be nice.

    I generally prefer denser urban environments that are considered less kid friendly. I don’t actually know what makes a house inherently child friendly or not, before it’s bought and furnished.

    I’m not fussy about who my neighbors are (children or not) because I don’t often talk to them. I was raised in and around cities where getting to know your neighbors is unncessary and kind of unusual.

    Post # 13
    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m a city dweller at heart. We base our housing decisions based on what unit/home speaks to us, and where that’s located in respect to our friends. I don’t think anywhere is truly child unfriendly. I know people that have successfully had kids in pretty much every situation imaginable.

    Post # 14
    8390 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My husband and I are CBC and we live in a very kid friendly neighborhood and we love it (total suburbia lol).  Our house is not very kid friendly as far as what we have for our layout (accesible wires/sharp objects, guns, etc), however we never have children over at our house and none of our good friends have kids.

    Post # 15
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’ll be having kids, but either way, I’d want somewhere that was convenient to what we need. We don’t have kids now, so where we live is great (except that there’s no yard). We live in a quiet apartment complex that’s a little bit outside of town, but a short drive to basically everything. We have grocery stores, home improvement stores, restaurants, the library, pet stores, craft stores, a movie theatre, etc. all within about five minutes. Within walking distance is a hookup for the trail system that goes through most of the city, as well–great for walking, biking, etc. A bit farther than that is the next city over with tons of festivals and local restaurants and shops.

    Post # 16
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    TO @AB Bride:  Interesting topic.

    I’ve been in a child free home situation 5 different times in my life… and have lived in 5 different environments…

    1- In Uni and I lived in an Apartment Complex (grouping of low rises) which was mixed with all sorts of “families”

    2- Was when my Ex-H and I first got married and we lived in a Big City High Rise situation (again all ages, altho predominently adults only, working professionals & seniors)

    3- Was when we were expecting our first child, and lived in a Garden Home in the Burbs (mixed all types of families, lots with kids)

    4- Was after my Divorce… when I lived on my own in a townhouse in what was very much an adult community

    5- With Mr TTR in a single family home in an established neighbourhood with families of all descriptions.

    I don’t think there is a RIGHT or WRONG way.

    # 2 – I enjoyed High Rise living Before Kids, because I liked being in a big city, and being a short distance from everything… restaurants, shops, bus, subway, work, etc.  We went out a lot and walked oodles.  As it was a rental, there were no worries about home maintenance, and so there was plenty of time not having to be spent “tied” to the home doing stuff on the weekends.

    # 3 and # 4 – Are simiilar to one another.  In that both meant I had more square footage and a nicer home for entertaining, but not have the huge worries of home maintenance (not a lot of grass to cut). Still tho able to enjoy things like home ownership, decorating, some outdoor plants, etc.

    # 5 – Is currently perfect.  I think I’d find it hard to go back to an Apartment / Condo situation now at this point in my life… altho maybe easier in 10 years if we are looking to downsize or do the snowbird thing stateside. 

    In between of course, are the various homes that I owned while I was married to my Ex-Hubby.  They were all larger family homes… 3 or 4 bedroom, with rooms & space for entertaining.  I miss some of those aspects (BIG houses have their advantages) BUT they also are a lot more work.  Work you tend to be willing to do when you have kids, and your life revolves extensively around the family home… and making a place / memories for them… perhaps not so much if there weren’t kids around.

    (Certainly know that right now, Mr TTR and I are less focussed on dotting all the I’s and crossing all the T’s at this stage in our life… making everything “perfect”… sure we cut the grass, plant some flowers, and try to keep on top of repairs… any decorating, buying stuff for the backyard etc… a BONUS.  Not like the obsession it was when there were kids at home… ie It is ___ Holiday, we need to have decorations and such)

    Tough to describe overall… but I hope this sort of explains it…

    EDIT TO ADD – Mr TTR & I now keep our house as WE LIKE IT… So the extra bedrooms are for our hobbies / interests.  And altho the house is in a family neighbourhood we’ve decided that despite the fact that we’ll have to sell the house in the future, any renos we do are also going to have to be what we want… so altho eat in kitchens are BIG for families, we are going to sacrifice that element, and just have a better functioning kitchen for food prep (our interest)… figuring that a good reno will still be a positive feature if we go to sell, this is an older home so there is a Dining Room area, and an open concept first floor with the DR overlooking the Family Room… so I think that it is still quite functional as a family home with kids anyhow.  (Lol, besides who doesn’t enjoy a well designed kitchen ???)


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