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I thought this would be a nice positive thread on the topic. I'm leaning towards parenthood, so the nice thing I'll say about CBC is hello, imagine what my wardrobe could look like by not paying for a college education/braces/music lessons/etc. And the MAJOR thing we can all agree on is that we get the CHOICE as women.
I'm a CBCer. To the women who are or want to be moms - God Bless You!! I don't have it in me.
Good idea for a thread! I'm CBC but I can definitely appreciate the dedication parents have to bringing up the next generation!
CBC-ers, I am envious of the possible adult-only vacations you will get to enjoy while you are young and active! I will likely be an old lady before my next non-child-friendly vacation!
I have got to hand it the parents who teach their children manners early on, so its natural that they apply it. I had the door opened the other day by a boy maybe 5 or 6 who not only said "you're welcome" when I thanked, him but he also gave me a big toothless smile and told me to have a blessed day (I'm not religious, but I thanked him and thought it was so freaking adorable). Its so refreshing to see, especially when it seems like no kid has manners anymore
I am on the fence... so:
CBCers- I admire you for standing up for what you KNOW is right for you, your family, and your life. It takes a lot of guts to go against the grain. Stick to your guns ladies!
Parents- I admire how gracefully some of the women in my life handle the most incredible disasters. Being able to laugh off a destroyed bathroom is an amazing quality. You take things in stride, you are capable of balancing so many different schedules, needs, and wants. Remember to take time for you :)
Well, I am actually pregnant now, so to all the CBCers: I am so happy and proud of all of you for knowing what you do/don't want in your life. I think it takes a lot of confidence/courage to take a stand on what you believe in.
I know I want to be a mom someday but I think it takes a lot of courage to come out and admit that for whatever reason you just don't want kids. I think it's better to choose a childfree lifestyle than get pressured into having kids and then not give those kids all that they deserve because you resent them. Parenting is not for everyone.
This is awful to say but my favorite aunt was CBC and I was always so secretly happy she didn't have any kids so I could hog time with her :P Any CBC family members I have have always been so willing to do anything for us (the rest of the family). Kids take up a lot of time and parents often have to focus on their kids before their extended family. It's silly to say CBCers are selfish, all the childless couples in my family are the most selfless people I've ever known!
I am pregnant but something I will miss will be sleep. oh lovely sleep. I will envy all of you CBCers in that dept :)
To all of the CBCers I think it's wonderful that you know yourself and what you want in life and don't chose a path you don't desire just because society thinks you should. While some mean people could say that you are selfish, I think it would be more selfish to have a child when you don't want one. I also will envy all your beautiful material items and vacations.
Also pregnant right now, but I'm another person who admires CBCers for standing up for themselves when extremely rude people try to infringe on what they know is right for them.
I'm CBC. I admire the hell out of parents who take their job seriously. I know it's not easy in a world that thinks you should be buddies with your kids instead of being parents. I respect parents who balance time between working, sustaining their marriages, raising their kids, and trying to find time for themselves in the mix.
AndI owe everyone an apology. I went way too far yesterday, and should really learn to take my own advice and walk away from things 
Love this thread--it's good for us all to remember that women before us fought hard so that we could all choose whether to be SAHMs, working moms, or CBC!
I want some Littles, so to the CBCers: I am so glad that strong women who are not interested in being parents are embracing that life, instead of having children they don't want. I think you have courage to go against what is, I would imagine, still a lot of societal pressure to consider children. Additionally, I think you will all have incredible vacations at adults-only resorts, thus saving you from what I dread most about vacations with children: wandering how many kids have peed in the pool before I got in. :)
Great thread idea!
CBCers, I amire your strength in knowing what is right for you and standing by that despite what pressures and judgement you may receive from family and friends (I can't imagine how hard it has to be feeling you don't have loved one's support in your lifestyle and feeling like you have to explain yourself). I also think its amazing that you'll likely have a lot more freedom for travel and the finer things in life.
@MrsSl82be: Well this thread is my good deed today after being moderated this morning haha.
@MrsSl82be: I think its very very respectable/ humble of you to apologize for you actions whether they were warranted or not!
I really envy CBCers ability to travel and have freedom to act on a whim for the rest of their lives, because while I do that now I know someday when I have children life will not be so full of spontsneity and whimsy! Also I have the highest respect for people who have made the decision not to have children for themselves, I know its hard to go against social norms and what people expect, and to stay true to themselves and what they know is the right choice for them is so impressive, unselfish and honorable!
ETA: @MrsSl82be I don't even know for sure if I know why you are apologizing so I'm not saying I think you should be, just I have a lot of respect for people who are willing to apologize because it's not easy, esspecially in this type of forum where we are all strangers on the internet, and there is nothing and no one making you, so... yeah.
@redheadem: nice!! at least I'm not alone...good post, btw ;)
@MrsStormy: thanks!! I have learned the hard way that a simple apology goes a long way, especially when you have made a lot of friends on a site you wish to continue using and not want people to think less of you. Yesterday was a major embarassment to me, I should have known better than that, but I let my passion and anger get the best of me sometimes.
@MrsSl82be: It's easy to get carried away when it's a topic you're passionate about.
@smores: it's good for us all to remember that women before us fought hard so that we could all choose whether to be SAHMs, working moms, or CBC!
^^ so true!!
wandering how many kids have peed in the pool before I got in. :)
^^ not cool, not cool at all!! ;)
To the breeders,
Thanks for keeping the population going!! Many of you are doing an absolutely fantastic job raising excellent small people. Thank you!
xoxox,
CBCer
@GroovyHippieChick: so very true!! I just wish I woudl have backed away, taken a few breaths, and actually articulated what I wanted to say, rather than just firing back the first thing that came to my mind. Not my finest moment, but as long as y'all will still have me, I'm good!
FYI - next time, if it happens, someone just virtually bitch slap me and remind me about that thread, please!!!
@KristenGotMarried: lol!
I ahve a 12 year old so to CBC'ers I have one word for you LUCKY!! lol, Pregnancy does ALL KINDS OF WRONG to a womans body!
CBCers. I think that it's awesome that you guys are so passionate about your life choices. I'm jealous that you guys will still get to buy yourself awesome shoes whenever you want instead of baby clothes. lol. I already miss shoe buying.
@redheadem: Wonderful thread! I'm so happy to see a positive vibe going after all the negativity in the past week.
Well I'm currently childless so I'll go both ways since I want bebes in the future.
CBC: I love the freedom! You can spend your time and money on more things that YOU want to do....vs. saving for college, food, housing, and all the things that kids need! And traveling. And sleep. Mostly sleep.
Parents: You put up with so much crap (literally) and somehow remain sane. And you do it on so much less sleep! I admire parents who raise well-mannered, kind, thoughtful children. That's the kind of parent I hope to be. And also, childbirth. It does not seem to be easy, so the fact that some of you are willing to go through it multiple times, makes me respect you a lot!
I don't have kids, and we're lacking on the parenting love, so I'll say that having kids keeps you young - running around, playing imaginitive games, trying to keep up with the trends, etc. I think that part sounds like fun.
What a feel-good post!
I eventually want kids, so I will say to the CBCers - I'm sorry for all the negative comments and judgments you have to endure from so many people (usually parents). I promise never to think any less of you and give you that ignorant pitying head-tilt that I've seen and hated! I also won't give you any unwarranted advice (not that I have any) or tell you all about how my life was meaningless before I had children and that you'll "change your mind"!
Enjoy your sleep ins and vacations and awesome travel plans. :)
Wow, okay I'm going to be 100% honest. This thread is awesome. I really thought it was going to blow up. Thank you @redheadem for helping spread the goodwill between groups that were at odds. I really truly appreciate it :) You've done great work here! We should all reference back to this thread if things get heated back again to remember that we can be different but still appreciate and respect each other (and put on our blue hats). Hopefully we won't need to though! ;)
CBC peeps: Like the others, I really admire knowing what you want in life and living the life you choose. And I also admire your freedom to pick up and go wherever you want, do things on the schedule that you choose. Heaven.
Parents & step parents: I respect and appreciate all the hard work you do. Putting up with tantrums, poop, crying, trying to keep young minds entertained, well mannered, and happy. It's not an easy job!!! It's tough to balance with everything else in life!
I admire anyone who lives their life the way they want to, and not the way anyone else thinks they should. Life is too short to do anything else!
@bakerella: Thanks for the shout out to Step Parents!
To all the parents... thanks for raising the next President! Seriously, it's a tough job and I'm happy to see all the Bees on here that are truly devoted and loving parents. It warms my cold cold heart.
@mittens111211: As a step parent myself, I know what a difficult job it can be. It's a very difficult and politiky role to play! We need love and support too! LOL!
I waver back and forth on this issue on an almost daily basis. I look at travel websites and go "oooohhhh no babies!" then I see a baby and go "oooooooh babies!"
for the CBC, I have always -and will continue to admire those of you who deal with the ridiculous and harsh judgements cast upon you without flipping your lids.
for the parents, Toddlers and potty training. 'Nuf said. :)
I don't know if I'll be CF or not (but def not by choice)...
Parents and Step Parents-- thank you for doing the hard work, of saying no when it would be easier to say yes, for the thankless job that get's paid in toothless smiles.
CFC-- bless you for stepping in when parents can't be everything for their kids, for being the friend and the "cool aunt". Bless you for knowing your limits and finding a path that works for you.
CF not by choice-- for those of you who are child free, not by choice, bless you for all your pain and longing, for putting the next foot forward, for being the "cool aunt" when you want to be the "uncool mom", for finding meaning in your life and filling the holes, for finding some peace.
As a CBCer, I think it's pretty incredible for women to dedicate 9 months to being pregnant, and for parents to take on the immense responsibility of raising an upstanding, responsposible member of society. 
*sigh* I go through waves of wanting to have one child vs. wanting to be child-free, but FH definitely wants a kid, so parenting it is!
To CBCers: I envy your lives free of bodily fluids all over everything; your extra disposable income; the ability to go on vacations & date nights, etc. without having to worry about the kids; and being able to have sex whenever, wherever & however loudly you want in your own house!
Thank you CBCers for not bringing more children into an already overpopulated world solely because society pressures you into it. I admire your courage and strength in standing up for your beliefs and not doing what society 'expects' of you when it is not in accordance with your own personal wishes. Thank you as well for bringing this topic to light and sharing your thoughts and reasons with us - it's helped me better understand the thought process behind my sister's choice to be CBC.
I'm pregnant now so you know where I stand, but I've always wanted to be a mother and couldn't ever imagine not having children. That being said, I was adamant I was going to be childless until my 20s were long over, hence not TTC until age 32.
I am super jealous of all the travel opportunities CBCers get to have - my jet setting DH and I are going to struggle adjusting to the fact that we won't be able to just pack up and jet off to another country whenever we feel like it. So get out there and enjoy the world CBCers and know I'm a bit jealous....at least until the kids are old enough to take with us or leave with grandma for a week! :-)
I'm CBC. To all of my close friends who are new parents, thank you for having babies and giving me an excuse to sew blankets, toys, and onesies for them :) My local JoAnn Fabric store also thanks you. To all parents - I could never do it. I have no fear or squeamishness about bodily fluids, but the sleep deprivation alone would do me in. Kudos to the sacrifices you make for your children.
@redheadem: I LOVE this thread. I stayed away from the other because it was a little too hot and heavy for me.
I'm TTC this month...so...the the CBCers.
I have a huge respect for your courage and confidance. We've stopped telling people we want to have a baby now bc EVERYONE makes us feel bad about our decision because we aren't waiting the stereotypical year before getting pregnant and are even considering pretending it was a surprise if we do get pregnant this month. Compared to your rebellion of the social norm this seems so insignificant, and I'm still not woman enough to own it! So I definitely tip my hat to you, and you inspire me to be more confidant in the decisions I make for MY life.
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