Post # 1
My wedding is all set for January 17th 2015. We have everything booked and deposits paid and I felt under control until today.
<br />I received an email from my lovely celebrant to announce she is having a baby and will be due “end of January 2015”. In the email, she said she would be booking in for a caserean and so would know the exact date of the baby’s arrival. She says she will still perform our ceremony and others in January.
I would love to have her as our celebrant still as she is great, but am concerned something may happen at the last minute which will mean she can’t come and we will be left in the lurch without a celebrant. What if the baby comes a week early or she has some other complication meaning she has to go into hospital early?
She says she’s happy to perform it that late in her pregnancy (we can have her in shade and with anything else she needs) and I’m not concerned about any asthetic reasons of having her heavily pregnant- just the timing and her health.
What would you do if you were me? Book someone new (and many will be booked out as only six months to go) or hope she delivers safely and on time?
Post # 2
she may have a backup option setup, if shes willing to take the risk (being a no show) with her profession.
Post # 3
yeah. I would ask her if she has a backup option in the unlikely event she is unable to make your wedding, and if not maybe start looking at alternatives?
Post # 4
I asked her if she has a back up option and she said no, but that if I am concerned about it she can help me find someone else to replace her.
I really don’t want someone new but I don’t want to be worrying about it either.
Post # 5
MrsKing212: do you live somewhere you can have a friend of family member get ordained so that at the very least you can hope for your celebrant but have an easy access plan b?
Post # 6
Catcat1: I live in Australia.. I am not sure how much of an option that is here?
Post # 7
MrsKing212: me too, it’s not an option ;p haha
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I think that would be something that she needs to do, to find a back up “just in case”.
I know in all my vendor contracts, they all say that in case something should happy, they know other vendors that would help in the situation to fill in.
Just tell her, yes, as you know anything can happen and that you would like her to contact a few backups and have them available, if needed.
Post # 9
Usually cesareans are scheduled before natural labor would happen, because usually if it is scheduled there is a reason why natural labor would be dangerous or risky, so they avoid that. Still, things do happen, but honestly I don’t think the risk is that great. Maybe she has an associate? Or maybe you have friend or family member (even distant) that is already certified that might be willing to do the ceremony last minute.
Or what you could do is just go with it as a ceremony, and worse comes to worse you could have a friend do the ceremony, even if not certified, and just legalize the marriage in a courthouse right before or after the wedding. It doesn’t seem the most ideal, but it is only a very small possibility. There was a bee on here whose celebrant didn’t show up randomly, so they went with this option last minute since all their guests were there. They still had an amazing time, and eventually did get legally married.