Celebrate with friends and family BEFORE of AFTER you have a DW?

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: Celebrate with friends & family BEFORE or AFTER a DW? (for people who can't afford to attend DW)
    Celebrate with an engagement party before you go : (0 votes)
    Celebrate with a "reception" after you are married : (35 votes)
    100 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Brickette:  I would do it after, and I like the idea of letting people know you will have something else on a certain day. You could do it on the STD or send a little insert card with it.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    AFTER, for sure.

    Guests will be celebrating your marriage, so if you do it before… Well, there’s no marriage to celebrate yet! 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee

    @Brickette:  I voted to do it after because that’s what we are doing. We are getting married in Maui and expect 50-60 people will attend.  My fiancé and I live in Houston now, but I am from Florida and my fiancé is from Cali.  We are flying back from Maui after our honeymoo through his hometown of San Diego, and having a stateside reception there about 10 days after the actual wedding. People who can’t make it to Maui seem to love the idea of going to San Diego after the fact to celebrate with us. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We’re having 2 parties after we return. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We are having an engagement party for family and when we get back a large reception for everyone.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We’re doing an engagement party (very non-formal)before. And doing a reception when we’re back for those who didn’t come to the wedding

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted after becuase that’s what we are doing in just a few weeks. We are getting married in Mexico with just 4 people (our brothers & their SO’s/wives), and then a week later we are flying to our families home state for a very casual party for about 40. We aren’t even doing the full on reception stuff, just some music & a BBQ. We don’t get to see our families very often since we live in CA & they live in GA so I’m looking forward to being able to catch up with everyone without having to interupt it all with dances, cake cuttings, tosses, etc… 

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Celebration party afterwards!

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I looked into this because I wanted to do a huge engagement party to celebrate but apparently according to lots of etiquette and peoples’ comments, it isn’t a good idea to invite people to celebrate the engagement if you aren’t inviting them to celebrate the wedding.  In your situation you would be inviting them all to the wedding anyway so it’s a little bit different, but apparently people like the idea of celebrating with you afterwards.  It’s like “we missed out, but now we get to celebrate,”  as opposed to “we are getting together now and celebrating your pre-engagemetn and upcoming wedding even though we’re missing the actual wedding.”  Sigh, I really wanted to do before obviously but I came out agreeing to do after for all these reasons.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d just do a reception after.

    A family friend’s daughter had a DW last summer. She sent out an invite stating when/where they were getting married, but simply inviting my parents to the reception a couple of weeks after they got back.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We had a DW too!! We had an engagement party to celebrate our engagement, and a party afterwards. Do it after. Stretches out the festivities 🙂

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