Post # 1
My SO and I are from Australia and recently decided after talking about all of our future dreams and plans that we would like to get married in Las Vegas (we have kept coming back to this idea everytime we talk weddings).
We aren’t really sure on what the “rules” are for this.. We will be inviting EVERYONE but we know that 90% of our friends and family will not be able to afford to fly to America for our wedding so we would like to have a big celebration and invite everyone to our home to celebrate but we can’t decide if we should to it as an engagement party BEFORE we get married or as a reception AFTER we get home from the States..
Is it a good idea to send out STD’s for the DW along with a note that says something like “we know some people may not be able to attend an overseas wedding so we would love to celebrate with everyone at our engagement party on XX date”? or send out something saying “we are getting married in Vegas, we would love you to attend but if you can’t please help us celebrate when we get home”
I don’t know anyone who has actually done this so I’m out of my depth here and my SO and I want to start planning now so once he proposes (My guess is in the next 6 months!!) we can start planning for 12 months from our engagement 🙂
Post # 3
@Brickette: I would do it after, and I like the idea of letting people know you will have something else on a certain day. You could do it on the STD or send a little insert card with it.
Post # 4
Is it too soon for a little *bump*?
Post # 5
AFTER, for sure.
Guests will be celebrating your marriage, so if you do it before… Well, there’s no marriage to celebrate yet!
Post # 6
@Brickette: I voted to do it after because that’s what we are doing. We are getting married in Maui and expect 50-60 people will attend. My fiancé and I live in Houston now, but I am from Florida and my fiancé is from Cali. We are flying back from Maui after our honeymoo through his hometown of San Diego, and having a stateside reception there about 10 days after the actual wedding. People who can’t make it to Maui seem to love the idea of going to San Diego after the fact to celebrate with us.
Post # 7
We’re having 2 parties after we return. 🙂
Post # 8
We are having an engagement party for family and when we get back a large reception for everyone.
Post # 9
We’re doing an engagement party (very non-formal)before. And doing a reception when we’re back for those who didn’t come to the wedding
Post # 10
I voted after becuase that’s what we are doing in just a few weeks. We are getting married in Mexico with just 4 people (our brothers & their SO’s/wives), and then a week later we are flying to our families home state for a very casual party for about 40. We aren’t even doing the full on reception stuff, just some music & a BBQ. We don’t get to see our families very often since we live in CA & they live in GA so I’m looking forward to being able to catch up with everyone without having to interupt it all with dances, cake cuttings, tosses, etc…
Post # 11
Celebration party afterwards!
Post # 12
I looked into this because I wanted to do a huge engagement party to celebrate but apparently according to lots of etiquette and peoples’ comments, it isn’t a good idea to invite people to celebrate the engagement if you aren’t inviting them to celebrate the wedding. In your situation you would be inviting them all to the wedding anyway so it’s a little bit different, but apparently people like the idea of celebrating with you afterwards. It’s like “we missed out, but now we get to celebrate,” as opposed to “we are getting together now and celebrating your pre-engagemetn and upcoming wedding even though we’re missing the actual wedding.” Sigh, I really wanted to do before obviously but I came out agreeing to do after for all these reasons.
Post # 14
I’d just do a reception after.
A family friend’s daughter had a DW last summer. She sent out an invite stating when/where they were getting married, but simply inviting my parents to the reception a couple of weeks after they got back.
Post # 15
We had a DW too!! We had an engagement party to celebrate our engagement, and a party afterwards. Do it after. Stretches out the festivities 🙂